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writes:I'm 17 now..I'm almost back with my ex.Today i had physical intimacy[not sex,only oral sex and a foreplay]with him..I try to control the intimacy but we cannot..I really want to control it.Because after i'm intimate with him i start feeling guilty!I think i'm just17 and at such a young age if i start all this at this age thenits gonna be trouble for me in the future [ i might crave ]What do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): Are you sure you feel guilty after you're intimate or is there more to it? Are you sure you want to be with this guy. If it is just about the intimacy then don't worry, in time you'll get used to it, just relax and know that this is a natural thing :)
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reader, cracked mirror.  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 intimacy is a natural thing, you shouldnt feel guilty about it. its normal for someone to want to expirment with someone they like, however, the fact your feel guilty is maybe a sign that maybe hes not the right person. you should never do anything you dont want to do.
maybe if you dont meet up with him for a week or two and then see how you feel towards him when your not with each other. if you still feel guilty i suggest you shouldnt be intimate, however it is completely normal and natural.
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reader, LottieCole  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Dear Anon,
if you dont feel ready for any kind of intimacy dont feel pressurized into doing anything your not ready to do. It is personal choice when your ready to be intimate with a partner. Having intimacy at 17 does not mean you will suddenly become easy or crave sex from every man. You will still have your morals and beliefs and remember to only become intimately involved with someone you care about, whose not using you just for sex and most of all when your ready.
If your not ready for the intimacy youve just had then explain it to the guy your with, if he respects you he will wait until your ready. If he doesnt understand then move on an wait for the right man who will respect you.
Lottie x
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