I feel bad about what happened in the past but I do love her sister

A male age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Ok well, about 2 years ago I was rejected by a girl I liked and was depressed and sought comfort in anyone. It just so happens that person was one of my best friends and I admitted my "love" for her and she said she loved me and always had. But about to weeks onto the relationship I realized my feelings werent real. And that I was severly depressed thus I went to her just to feel wanted. After realizing this I knew our relationship could not go on and I felt completely awful for what I had done so I met her and broke up with her and tried to explain. Well...I broke her heart and it was the very last thing I wanted to do to her. She was one of my best friends for years and I loved her but only as a friend and apparently shed always felt something more than that. So obviously that pretty much killed our friendship, which I wish more than anything she would forgive me. But now 2 years later I am dating her sister, whom I have genuine love for. But she knows my past with her sister and she worries sometimes that I could do that to her and I would never imagine doing that to her ever(I didn't wanna do it to her sister in the first place) I see myself one day marrying this girl. What I wanna know is am I a horrible person for what i did and am I horrible for keeping this relationship with her sister going because I know the girl I dumped does not like it and says that I'm going to do the same thing to the girl I love(her sister). I feel really badly for what I did and I know it wasn't right but I feel that I should be able to love the girl I'm with, without her sister saying anything because it was 2 years ago and she herself has moved on.

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