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writes:Hi!There is a guy on TV that I can not stop thinking about. He is so breathtakingly beautiful that it makes me loose my breathe every time I see him (yes I know it sounds silly but that is how it feels) But I think / daydream about him all the time. Just thinking abotu him makes me smile and I have in my whole life never seen someone more beautiful.OK before anyone thinks I am some deranged fan, I am not. I have no desires to meet him or join any fan club nor do I have any dellusions of ever meeting him or marrying him etc. I am purely someone who really likes/ admires him from afar...just have the biggest crush on him and thats as far as it is.I do have a guy so its not even like I am single. My bf is a nice guy and beautiful on the inside, but physically I have never been with someone so beautiful on the outide (gosh I hope that doesnt sound too vain as I am not...and yes it is the person inside, and in reality I know this TV guy could be a real jerk!) But I do fantasise and daydream about this TV guy which in a way isnt fair on my bf. This may sound stupid because of course it is just a silly crush but sometimes it hurts in a way. I mean this is how girls feel at 13 for boybands....someone of my age going through this is silly! lol Anyway any tips or advice on how to stop focusing so much on this beautiful guy and instead look to the things around me or try to find that same beauty/distraction in things that ARE real and let go of things like this which ISNT and will NEVER be.Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): The easiest way to get over this 'crush' is to stop watching programs that he is in, do not look up his pics on-line, in other words stop feeding your brain with this guy and soon it will forget about him and you can enjoy your boyfriend the way you would like, good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): If you can stand having your "bubble burst" then try finding out something you really don't like about your heart throb guy. Dig around, there's probably something.
Does your BF now about this crush of yours? If he knows and it's not bothering him, then don't let it bother you just because you "shouldn't" have these feelings about a stranger. Grownups know that we can be in a relationship with one person and still fantasize about another sexually without wanting to be with them in real life. Grownups can handle it.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Just out of curiousity...... Who is this heart-throb you have a crush on? I have had crushes on TV and movies stars past and present like Johnny Depp, Rob Lowe, Colin Farrell,Martin Shaw...... the list goes on. Treat it as a crush and nothing serious, otherwise like you said he could be a real jerk in real life.
Noel Fielding???? Hmmmm!!! He reminds me of a 70s Glam rock star. I must admit David Walliams is quite cute ;D
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reader, XxAnGelXxx +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Im kind of like that with noel fielding lol, its only human nature to be attracted to someone, and just like a teenage crush it'll pass before you know it, in the mean time try focusing on your fella n how great he is, get out the house a bit and away from the telly, have some fun days out with your man or your friends and tune back into reality for a bit and im sure it'll pass in no time x
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