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*adanddirty
writes:Dear Cupid,I met my current gf about a year and a half ago... from the get go I realised she was the one. She's funny, she's smart, she's kind, she's gentle... she understands me in ways that a lot of other people don't. I feel loved and secure I am happy in almost every way... except one... our sex life...I feel that I'm into things that are way kinkier than she is... I've tried talking to her but I'm scared that if I share too much she'll go off me and leave me... what do I do???yours... dirty and sad
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reader, lilith delilah  +, writes (5 August 2014):
 I have the same types of issues with both guys and girl(bisexual). But the only way you can deal with this is to openly talk with her! She may be a little unnerved but she will try it for you just slowly bring her into your type of kink play! Give her a safe word watch her reactions an slowly proceed. I find that the best way if they aren't truly open to the idea.
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reader, E love +, writes (3 August 2014):
Ookay well.first off don't exclude the she won't be scared because when a women truly loves a man shell do.what ever.she can to please him sexually. Buuut if you feel the things are too graphic and you feel it might have her like woahh! Then maybe you gotta tone it down a bit
:p buuut if you guys are the real deal then talk it out but don't forget some one might not be ready for that type of sex because they can't finish or they just don't know how too so they might feel innocent twists the topic, buuuut a women is capable of finsihsing just like a man, so if your dealing with sumone who can't orgasm then the type of sex u want might never happen unfortunately :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2014): Ask her if she'll participate in what you like. She might surprise you.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 August 2014):
 Sexual compatibility is crucial in a healthy relationship. You need to be upfront about what you need and expect, talk to her and let her decide if she is willing or not to participate. You guys may even be able to find a middle ground that is mutually agreeable. If you try to hide it you will eventually be unfulfilled which will lead to major problems down the road. Best to get it out on the table and find out where you stand. Just curious, you don't watch a lot of weird porn do you?
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