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writes:Iv been friends with a boy for 5 years and ive always known he's thought of me as more. A couple of months ago he was telling me he wants to be with me and asking me if i would. iv been saying i dont know because im scared but i really want to say yes and be with him. he has a reputaion for getting around a bit and im scared that if i do say yes he might carry on goin with other people and it will ruin our frendship too but im afraid that if i dont say yes soon he's goin to give up on me an not bother and move on. i really love him but i dont know what to do. please could you help me.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 You're pretty young to be wrapped up in all of this intrigue. I'd say stay friends and don't get in over your head. You say he gets around. You don't want to be another notch on his bedpost do you? If you lose his friendship because you won't "put out", he's not much of a friend and you haven't lost much.
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reader, Hag +, writes (1 February 2007):
If you want to keep this friendship as is you must decline the invite. If you are interested in being intimate and developing a lasting love with this man, you must address this issue directly. When he asks to be intimate be completely honest about how you feel. If you two are friends as you say, then he will respect whatever your feelings are. If you feel you would become attached to this man and are afraid he won't feel the same you need to tell him. Never, ever be afraid to say no to sex. Someone who truelly cares about you will not desert you. If you want more than a friendship including sex you need to make this clear. If this man likes to 'get around' without committing and commitment is what you want, I would suggest waiting for a more serious approach from him; one directed towards commitment. Patience is virtue. In the meantime try not to close your heart to other options. Good luck.
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