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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years, he has always had a problem with expression his emotions, its his up bringing, all his brothers are the same, find it hard to express how they feel and put feelings into words. He became depresses so went onto medication and became much more open etc but the past 4 0r 5 months hes gone back to his typical keep all feelings hidden again. He comes home from work, we watch some tv have some dinner then bed, we hardly ever have sex, he says he still fancies me and is inlove with me, i really need help.......as im starting to get down myself and notice other guys who pay me attention and make me feel attractive.....i don't want this relationship to end but i just don't know what else i can do? Reply to this Question
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reader, green eyed mulatto  +, writes (6 September 2011):
 Ok first of all he is what they call a "stuffer" someone who keeps his feelings to himself not all men know how to be verbally affectionate. I know because i too am dating a stuffer and when we first began to date he warned me of this but i didn't pay attention to it until or relationship began to proceed! When your dating a man like this yo have to pay attention to his actions way more and if he truly loves you then his affection for you will be apparent in his demonstrations....as far as your sex life maybe it's just your schedules are not on the same time frame when you have a chance initiate the affection first be forth coming about your issue and open up to him more! see how he reacts and communicate with him even if he can't you take the lead and see what happens don't give up a him if its real love much luck to you..i hope this will work out!
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reader, Aunty Monica  +, writes (6 September 2011):
I like the fact that you know and agree that he has a condition that causes him to act the way he does. I think you should seek counselling together, that way he gets the sort of help he needs and you can both sort out your feelins and issues.
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reader, Ashley0112358 +, writes (6 September 2011):
 It is most likely his anti-depressants that have put him off sex, speak to him about it, and ask him to speak to his doctor about changing to a different type.
If he says he still fancies you, then you are going to have to take his word for it, i know this is a rough time at the moment, but you need to be there for him, as he has been there for you in the past.
There are many SSRI's (selective seretonin re-uptake inhibitors) available, all with different side-effects. Im sure if you go with him to the doctors, you will be able to find out which is right for your boyfriend.
Good luck, and dont give up yet, your relationship is wortht he wait.
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