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writes:I've been dating this girl for 3 years now and the first 2 years of our relationship was the best 2 years of my life. We both work so its difficult to see each other but she has become bored of me i guess. like when we are together she doesnt want to go anywhere or do anything she just wants to do nothing. she has cheated on me once before but she never told me. One of my close friends told me a year and a half later after it happened. so anyways, the last year has been hard there has been so much drama and fights but its all gone now but i just dont think she likes me like she used to and she says she loves me but i dont tno what to do
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reader, ladychaos +, writes (27 June 2007):
You need trust and honesty to make it work. Don't sit back and say nothing. I have been in your position and eventually I erupted. The man was the father of my four children. We are currently seperated. Sometimes I think that if I would have not allowed him to walk over me from the beginning that we could have worked it out. How does she know what to fix if you dont tell her whats broken.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 I would sit down and ask her what she wants, out of life and from your relationship. You two can't continue in something that makes you unhappy. Tell her how you are feeling and how you want the old feelings and happiness back. Maybe suggest going out once a week for dinner, or to the cinema or bowling.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Feelings are still there between you.
Your relationship became more stable.
"there has been so much drama and fights but its all gone"
"when we are together she doesnt want to go anywhere or do anything she just wants to do nothing".
Try to bring something new into your relationship; otherwise you may reach a point of complete stagnation.
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reader, Lovebunny  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Well I'm around the same age as you so I might be of some help. she dosn't seem to be an honest perosn cause if she was she would of told you her self that she cheated but then again you probley didn't ask.She could just be depressed but she probly doesnt like u in that way any more. So if u do stay with her ,she porbley will dump you,it could even happen next week.I really think ur going to get hurt in the end ,theres not much you can do .I think that may be u should give her a second chance ,but if you did ask her if she cheated then since she didn't admit it then by staying with her your putting your self at risk of getting hurt again. Ask your self this Can i trust her again or can i learn to trust her again,is she worth the risk of getting hurt.Good luck and take care.
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