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*otSean
writes:I don't like sex at all because I have sustained testicular trauma in early adolescence. I don't like to think about it, even if its a constant reality for me.In what ways to you think that this impairs my life to a level that is significant? Reply to this Question
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (16 August 2010):
Lol, Q you sure know which anecdotes to pick. Makes me wonder what other stories you've got.
But yeah OP, you're not making a whole lotta sense here. Care to elaborate?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (14 August 2010):
 Exactly what do you mean by "mutual enjoyment"??? If you can please a woman but not come yourself, what is wrong with that?? Then you might be able to have a full cmpanionship, if you can give a woman what she needs, and she can give you what you need. Be specific, what exactly is your issue, because you have been walking around the issue all the time now. We can't possibly help you unless you tell us what the real problem is, and please do tell, because we are clueless.
But basically, if you can not enjoy a normal sexual life, then a normal relationship is out of reach, and you might have to settle with friendship, or the companionship of someone with a similar trauma?
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reader, NotSean +, writes (14 August 2010):
NotSean is verified as being by the original poster of the question@anonymous I will take your advice. However I have seen a urologist and I don't think he could do anything for me.
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reader, NotSean +, writes (14 August 2010):
NotSean is verified as being by the original poster of the question@chigirl I feel a desire, a biological yearning, for sex that is enjoyable. I can technically engage in penetration but I will not be able to have an experience of mutual enjoyment. I do yearn for other kinds of sexual activity though such as cuddling.
I would like intimate emotional companionship with a woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): It sounds like you should talk to some competent doctors. They can repair, reinforce, and or compensate for a lot of problems along those lines these days. Get some good up to date info from somebody that has experience helping prostate and testicular cancer survivors back on track. You'd be amazed at some of the success stories.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (13 August 2010):
 Chigirl is asking what you are not saying. You said "I don't like sex at all".
So the question is... Can you get an erection? Does is hurt when you do, so you try not to think of sex? Are you missing a testicle or two, and feel that women will not want to have sex with you or judge you?
Please explain what the trauma has to do with you and sex?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (12 August 2010):
Wait, so do you still get horny and feel the need for sex? Or do you not want sex at all? Because if you want sex, but for physical reasons can't have it, then you are a more serious problem than if you don't like having sex at all.
First off, you can not get married. I am sorry, but women will want a partner who they can be intimate with. Unless in the rare case you find a woman who can not have sex as well. Second you can not have children by your own, well unless you find a woman to marry. As you are not going to have sex, you can't father children, unless you have a load of money and can get your sperm taken out of you clinically and placed inside of a woman. That will cost you a lot. Adoption might not be possible unless you are married, and even so they cost a ton of money as well.
So, no children and no marriage. I think at best you can find female companionship? You did say you are attracted to females though, in what way? Would you like having sex with them, and it is just penetration that is impossible? Or can't you do any sort of sexual activity?
Your question needs to be described more in length, this is too little information.
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reader, NotSean +, writes (12 August 2010):
NotSean is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBrownwolf- Maybe you misread my question. I am not sure I understand your response. I can't enjoy sex for physical reasons. What I don't like to think about is that fact.
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reader, NotSean +, writes (12 August 2010):
NotSean is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou are wrong. I am still attracted to women, I guess I should have made that more clear in the post.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (12 August 2010):
Well it have already impaired your life. You have shut yourself down before you even started.
Now you sit there while everyone else is having a blast with it, telling yourself you don't need to do it, and years have gone by, and for what???
Why are you not interested?
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (12 August 2010):
imo
your situation is quite tricky
because in a away you are lucky
as your saving your mind from running after women
and your mind is clear of thier mind games
but at the same time
you dont know what you are missing bub
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