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36-40,
*eordiegirl22
writes:I love my ex so much its at times unbearable, he is my soul mate. We have been split up a month, because he told me he wanted to go work away, but then decided he cudnt cos he couldnt live with not seein his daughter (from a previous relationship)and me. He begged for me back, and i so so so want to take him back, but he hurt me so badly i just cant bring myself to saying yes.He is now thinking i am playing games by saying i want him back, but wont take him back at the minute cos im pretrified of him hurting me again.We make each other happy, and we have been out a couple of times since we split up and its been great, its just when were apart were making each other miserable by arguing all the time, and cos one gets hurt the other goes one better to hurt the other and so on.i know its not healthy, and should probably walk away from this and not look back, as everyone of my family and friends say (none of his family or friends say it cos they actually like me, and say whatever pain iv caused him, he deserves).I cant see how everyone is seeing me as the badly done to one in all this, yeh i got hurt, but i caused just as much pain to him as he did me. iv tried telling everyone im not an angel iv done things wrong aswel but no one is listening and are making him out to be a complete utter you know what. which he is not liking cos he thinks if we do eventually get back together, noone is going to accept him, and il end up finishing it with him to stop the hassle.what should i do????? im so stuck.my heart says u love him, u can never give someone enough chances if u love them.my head says, too much pain has happened, it will always be the same.my family and friends say hes not worth it (thats putting it nicely) finish it once and for all, dont contact him when he contacts u.please help. i know some people will say he hurt you leave him, but please bare in mind i gave as good as i got.thanks in advance
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reader, goodlistener +, writes (8 June 2007):
It sounds like you blame yourself for a lot, even though both sides have done the same. I think you need to sit down with this guy, if you really want him back and talk about you two together and come to a truse. As for any family members, tell them he is what makes you happy, that they can either stand by you or not, that he is what you want. Even though your family put him down if they see he makes you happy they will have to find a way to accept it. Family are there for support, it does sound like they do care for you and they don't want you to get hurt. But at the end of the day, you are old enough to choose what you want.
Good luck honey x.
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