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writes: dear cupid,this is silly but me and my boyfriend are far away and so he calls me sometimes but neither of us know what to say to each other. i never have anyhting to say baisically os there any way you can help? i dont know why i feel so nervous but i never know what to say. please help! thankiesnadine Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): Just relax talk about your day how things are doing. But never ask him if he meant anyone else because he will get the feeling that you are cheating. Talk about things you saw on the internet school friends,, ipod music hw, pets even meeting up one day just dont be scared///
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU AND ANYONE ELSE WHO SEES THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): heheh i agree with her... you can write letters!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007):
dear nadine,
well basically you need 2 really get to know him more that is if you already do!really if he dont talk to you that means hes really shy or nervous which what you probably are!but you need to be happy just to see him which you are!!!!!ask him how hes doin how his day went. thank about the future and ask about maybe when you 2 can meet up! you sound like a fun girl so show that side of you when you talk.ask about what hes been up to!ask out going questions be spontanious!talk back and forth between talkin about ur self and ask about him!really theres no need to be shy about talking to someone u really really like because obveously he likes you or he wouldnt call take it from someone who knows!well that pretty much it like i said no need to be shy!talk to him and make him talk!well i g2g dont 4 get about everything i said!!!!!!
sincerelly,
carrie
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reader, Amethyst  +, writes (9 August 2006):
 I've actually went through this with my fiance. Right now he's in a totally different state, and it drives me nuts. I was INCREDIBLY shy, and neveeeer liked talking on the phone. So, if I can get over the hurdle, anyone can. So here's a brief guide on how to jump the hurdle.1. Start off with small talk: How was your day? Anything interesting happen? How's school/work going? 2. Get a little more personal: I missed you last night. I wish I could see you. I can't wait until I can visit you. (These are just examples, by the way.)3. Talk about interests: "I like the game Final Fantasy X. It's awesome." "I'm wondering if maybe I should get a cat. I've always wanted one, they're adorable." "I've found that I like to sing when no one's around... not good might I add."After a few of those, when things are more serious: (But be careful with timing, don't bring these topics up too soon...)4. Compliment them/Show admiration: I love you. You are a wonderful person, I can't believe I snagged you away first. I'm so happy to be with you.5. Talk about the future: I want to work as an accountant. I want twins, or either just one kid. Where do you think our honeymoon should be?And yes, writing letters and exchanging emails is good too. Don't let the relationship survive off them alone though. But if the topic is too serious and you know you'll freeze on the phone, type it up! Trust me, it's a lot easier for some reason.And don't let others influence your beliefs on your relationship. If you feel like he's good for you and you are happy with him, don't let people bring you down by saying "long distance never works." If you're meant to be, distance doesn't matter.
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reader, camille  +, writes (8 August 2006):
 Why not write letters instead?
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