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writes: Hey Ppl. My b/f, well kinda ex b/f is confusing me. We have been together for almost a yr now but we have experienced so much that it feels like at least 3yrs. We broke up because I coudnt handle the many girls who are present. But now I feel like I made a mistake because I have let them win. I do trust him but I know how hard temptation can be to resist. He says to me we are gonna get back together but says I can go and do things with other boys! I know that If I did he would go mad, So what do I do and why is he acting like this?
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (16 June 2006):
 Dearie, i really dont think this guy wants the same kind of relatiosnhip u want. my own opinion on the matter is that i feel he doesnt want a seriously relationship with u. if he does he wouldnt have alot of girls and then tell u to go do things with other guys as u indicated. i think u are letting your feeling rule u. you should stand by your previous decision for i think u made the right one. trust your instincts. why should u feel u have let the other girls win. A good relationship shouldnt be like that. You competing with other girls. After sometime u will get tired. From your posting it is so clear u arent even happy with the situation so why remain.He isnt worth it.They are lots of guys out there that will treat u with more love and respect.
The final decision is yours but for me i would advise u to go out and have fun u will meet the right person for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): It appears to me that your boyfriend wants his cake and eat it. having all these girls around is boosting his ego and putting yours at rock bottom. If he really really cared for you then he wouldn't even consider suggesting you see other boys. if you did then it would give him free reign to hitch up with whoever. You haven't let these girls win, I wouldn't trust him at all, you are having doubts about him, trust your instincts because they are always right. Give him an ultimatum either he puts you first or its over. Don't go putting yourself through anymore heartache, if he cared for you then he wouldn't want to hurt you. Find a man who you can trust 100% and considers your feelings first.
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (16 June 2006):
 Hey Huni,Perhaps hes testing you sayin that you can do things with other lads then if you dont he knows you still care for him and if you do then he'll think you want jus tell him that you dont want to you want to be with him and if u trust him like you say and he hasnt cheated on you before then there is no reason not to trust him now. If hes sayin to you that your gonna get bk togeather then it seems like he wants to so why dont ya just give it another try. Good Luck Helen x
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