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writes:I'm confused. Someone tell me what can i do... My relationship ended about a week ago today... Last night there was an earthquake and I got worried for him. i dragged on the worry for the whole night and i didn't sleep. I was crying and crying and my friend decided to call him for me and ask him if he was ok, he said and just hung up. Another friend of mine knowing the situation he says he's scared, that he still loves me. Our relationship ended with a bump, he told me he didn't love me anymore and tore me apart. He said it from one day to the other cause one day we were happy as clams in Ihop eating and walking around the mall and the next day he leaves me saying he's not ready for a GF, the next day he tells me loves me but as a friend. The next day after that he tells me he still loves me as a GF that we should stay friends and the next day after that he tells me he doesn't love me anymore that he likes me as a friend but frankly friends dont do what me and him did. Im skeptical and I dont know what to say I just assume he still loves me but sometimes he treats me so cold cause when I called him after the earthquake thing he just treated me so cold and his good bye was " See you later " and I just mumbled " no you wont.. " and he then said " Then talk to you later " i just corrected him and said " You know that's not true.." so he said " Take care" with the pissed off attitude,I know when he gets mad. I just wanna know if he still cares for me or not.My questions are..Does he still love me? Is he really just scared? Did he ever care for me? ( also we lasted almost 9 months and days before the breakup he talked to me about buying me a ring for me and him, like a promise ring. We talked about marriage but when I asked him about our future he'd just get upset and say he didn't want to talk about cause he would cry cause he has to leave for the states cause he wants to be a pilot. And he'd often say how I could find myself someone better if he leaves cause I'm a great catch for any guy)Is there a future chance with me and him?Should I just forget him? If so, how?Or my personal question...Will he ever come back? Reply to this Question
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reader, Zanie  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 This is men, generally. Especially young men. He is immature and young and he is just playing the field. Maybe he does care about you, but he sure doesnt know how to express it. You're expecting the movies. He's a young guy and you're a young girl and the idea of marriage or a future is nuts. Granted you can hope you'll have one together but you two should'nt be thinking about that now. You should be just enjoying each others time together and having fun and being young (always with common sense and precaution). It seems to me like he has his life all planned out and he just wants to see where it goes. He may care for you greatly and want to keep in touch, but I dont think he wants to worry about a relationship while trying to find his way. Just stay friends, and maybe love will blossom in the future, once you both have found your paths.
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reader, iiSparkle  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Hey,
wow thats really bad.
I dont understand how he can say that to you one day then the next say something completely opposite?
Its quite unrational.
Anyways, is this his first relationship? that may explain something, seeing as he doesnt know how relationships are like and hasnt had much experience in them so he may be scared to loose you, but at the same time he thinks that hes not good enough for you so he tries to push you away so you find someone else.
It could be his parents, maybe they dont like him having a girlfirend or hes not ready and that he must keep himself busy with his career or so. And they may think having a girlfriend is distracting or he ma think the same.
Because you say he wants to be a Pilot this means he will be getting jobs other places in the country or world ( i know someone whos a pilot, and travels alot)so he thinks that long distant relationships wont work.
It seems to me that he does love you but like i said he wants you to find someone who will make you feel happy, as he feels he is not worth it.
Theres a possibility that theres a future with him, but that depends if he tells you whats up with him and how he feels about you. You should tyr to forget him, but still keep in contact if he generally thinks that he doesnt love you but try to find someone else. i Knoo its difficult to, but everyone has to move on its life.
He may come back, let him know how you feel and ask him why did he go out with you knowing that it would end like this?
Say to him that hes the one for you and that you dont want another guy, make him feel needed.
Guys are not psychic, they are not good at picking up hints so you'll have to tell him how you feel and that you still want him.
Hope this helps :)
Good luck x
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