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writes:Hello, I am looking for some advice on a guy. We chat every couple of days, he has never asked me out, however, he is always making comments about coming to my house for a night inn or me staying at his for a night inn. I was just wondering if this guy wants to get me know me better or if he just wants casual sex. I was going to just ask him out right but I don't have the confidence just to ask him incase he really does like me and then I hurt his feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): He sounds to me like a bit of a cheapskate. You mean to say he's never asked you to have a few drinks with him down at the local pub or even a quick nosh at the local Chokey restaurant?
This is taking the 'Your place or mine?' question far too literally!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): Personally, I wouldn't bring it up, but I would invite him over to dinner. If he makes any romantic moves, then politely ask him to stop because you'd prefer to get to know him first. If it's only for sex, then you'll not here from him again. If he wants a relationship or he likes you very much, then he should call and say he had tons of fun and would like to see you again. Otherwise, the next time he mentions staying in, then say no, you'd rather he take you out to somewhere cheap and cheerfull, so you can take time to get to know each other better. Good luck.
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reader, les  +, writes (15 August 2008):
Is this someone you know in person or someone you met online but have not met in person yet?
If this is an online friendship than you should not be inviting a stranger into your house or going to a strangers house either. Your first couple of meetings should be in a public place only, so the issue of sex is off the table. Just tell him you'd rather go to some kind of establishment.
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