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writes: Am I not as good as porn? My Boyfried doesn't realise that I know that he stays up late so that he can look at porn - he don't have an addition to it, but when he watches it, he stops making love to me. We've just had a fantastic fortnight where his attentions were just on me, as we'd been on holiday. Now we are home and I've gone back to work, he's back on the computer, and he hasn't touched me since... I'm at my wits end - I don't want him to stop as I'm not agaisnt it - I just don't want to be second best to visual stimilation. He loves me - I know that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): You need to talk to him, as that behavior is a problem. When I watch porn just before going to bed, I'm more horny and more into sex with my wife. When we watch together, we only got through a few minutes of watching before we are all over each other. Watching porn has never made not to want affection and sex with a girlfriend or my wife, so I can't really understand what is going through his mind. However, it is obvious that it is causing a problem with your sex and affection life.
Communication is critical in a relationship, because things like this will happen from time to time. As hlskitten said, this is concerning if he cannot talk and give you an answer and work on the solution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2008): This is indeed the scorge of the porn generation. Men denying pleasure to their women and just pleasureing themselves with the easy women of internet porn.I am amazed at how many times this is brought up on this and other boards. No generation before this one had such a problem, it is very new. Most people can watch porn in moderation and it not affect their sex lives with their partner, but there is a portion of the general population that has an addictive attraction to porn.When men masterbate to porn, they receive a powerful chemical cocktail from their own bodies. These chemicals were put there by nature to bond a man to his mate and keep him coming back for more. It relaxes him, soothes his nerves and gives him an overall feeling of well-being.With the availability of porn this highly effective system is reaking havoc on sexual relationships. You need to have a discussion with your boyfriend, if he cannot give up the porn for an agreed upon time frame (I would suggest 30 days minimal) then he may have an addiction to it and it is time for you to pack your bags and leave. This addiction, just like all others, escalates in time and it will destroy YOU.Find yourself a man that wants to make love to his woman, not masterbate his sexuality into oblivion. Porn robs some men of their ability to make love to a woman. It teaches them to be selfish and have total disregard for a woman's needs. BTW, this is not speculation from some religious zealots, there is plenty of proof that this is happening to an entire generation of men. There is a reason they call it the crack of the internet.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Have a chat then. Explain your concerns. If you two cant do that, then its a little concerning.
C xxxx
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