I dig too much into my guy's past

Okay, I'm just going to get straight to the point. I'm going crazy! I've been with my guy for four years and because of not only my past with him, but my past with others, I feel like I dig too much in his past. It's all I'm worried about most of the time. I swear, if I don't feel like things are going good, I start picking fights over his past, questioning him. It's like bad attention is better than no attention. I always snoop and it's making me feel like an absolute nut. I love him to death and have made a decision to try to make this work, regardless of past problems. Yes, he's lied and done really mean things, but he's made the effort to change and he has. I'm so happy with him, but I just feel like I'm going to screw this up. I get so jealous and insecure sometimes. Most of the time, I try to keep these feelings to myself, but I feel like I need to reach out to my fellow woman (and men who deal with this) for help, because this man is my everything and I just want to make him happy. Every relationship in my past has failed. I think I'm scared of history repeating itself, that I'm espousing a self-fulfilling prophesy. Please, no mean comments. I know the way I'm acting is going to end up pushing him away. I really want to stop feeling like this.

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