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writes:I cheated on my boyfriend and I regret it soo much I feel soo guilty I can't tell him he will leave me and never be with me. I just though it wasn't that bad after all, since I dnt wanna cheat when we get married. But now its killing inside I dnt know what to do I feel he's goanna find out and when I'm with him I dnt feel good I feel scared I think the guy I was with is goanna do or say something however he never was a bad guy or gave any reasons not to belive in him or gave me doubts of him saying sumthing why do I feel like this can someone please help me out. Thank you
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reader, raiders  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 Cheating is not ok and if there is a chance that your going to get caught it will be better if you told your boyfriend yourself. Sorry love but sometimes we can't have it both ways and some learn the hard way, hopefully this will be a lesson learned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): You know he is going to find out anyway.perhaps have more respect for yourself and twll him before he finds out that you are a liar and a cheater. You are only panicked that he will find out, not that you cheated. This is a big difference. You are scared that he will leave you- my direct question is this:if you knew that he will leave you, if you say that you now feel soooo guilty then Why did you continue with the act in the first place. You messed up a good thing and you are going to lose whatever respect he has for you by continuing to lie to him. Believe me if he finds out from someone else or if he catches onto your lies then expect the worse. He doesn't deserve it. If you have any feelings for him then you need to do the right things and start learning to be honest: this means telling him you cheated.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 May 2010):
The fact that you cheated shows that there is something wrong with your relationship. So deal with the problem, and the gilt will start to go away. If you think he will find out, then you need to tell him, because it will sound better coming from you than from someone else. If you keep it hidden and he finds out, he will certainly get rid of you. The price of cheating is that at some point it will come back in some way. but it's also an indication that something is very wrong.
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reader, OmegaXF +, writes (5 May 2010):
 You did some untrustworthy actions. He never gave you reasons to cheat on him yet you did anyways. That proves you wanted something he couldn't give you whether it be more comfort or sex, honestly if he decided to drop you don't feel bad, since you knew what you wanted in the first place. No point crying over what will eventually become reality. Put yourself in his shoes and imagine that he cheated on you what would you do? Exactly!
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