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writes:My question is... I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and have never gotten pregnant despite how many times he has came in me. He is a huge pot smoker as well. I cheated on him and the new guy came in me (who is as healthy as a horse and does not do any drugs at all) and 3 weeks later I end up pregnant. Do you think its more the new guy's or my pot smoking boyfriends? what should i do?
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reader, babygirl92989 +, writes (12 December 2008):
what im doing is trying to find out when i concieved and match the dates up that way if its your boyfriends you dont have to go through having to tell them you know if your still unsure then get a DNA test
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2007): Leave your current pot smoker boyfriend, because addicted men (to anything, even workaholics) ALWAYS have deep emotional issues and NEVER make good partners. Tell the other you think it's his and be prepared for a possible rejection from his part. DNA tests are too expensive I believe you should start saving for it. When the results come go to court to settle father responsabilities. But if you are going to do a DNA your bf will obviously find out. I'd separate from him and wait to see if at least the baby looks like either to see what I'm going to do. But if you tell them both right now you'll end up with more problems because they both will be mad. Also that guarantees you your current will have excuses to cheat while you are pregnant and verbaly abuse you. The other one might not want anythign to do since you have a fromal relationship already. So the best way for you is to separate from both, tell the cheater he might be the dad and when the baby is born perform the DNA on both or chose the one who looks more like the dad to be the dad. If your bf asks tell him you hooked up with somebody after you dump him and he might be the dad also. But in order for it to work you have to leave your current bf now and not tell him you are pregnant now.
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reader, Noir sur Blanc +, writes (22 December 2007):
Prepare for this to go badly at first, with some light at the end of the tunnel. Determine if you are going to keep the baby or not, but don't expect to be able to keep the truth from your boyfriend, not that you should. You cheated on your boyfriend with this other man for a reason, and this is something you need to seriously consider as to why you would act out in this way.
Although you have been in what I am guessing is a steady relationshiop with your boyfriend of two years - not an insignificant amount of time - you allowed yourself to be seduced by this other man. You allowed him to penetrate you, and to do so without the use of a condom. You also allowed him to ejaculate in you, and to be impregnated by him as well; each act deeply more intimate than the previous. It may be that you are looking for intimacy perhaps in ways that your current boyfriend cannot offer. So put yourself under a little introspection. If you are unhappy with your boyfriend, but no means should you continue to maintain a relationship with someone you are unhappy. But while you were with him, and perhaps still are, you acted deceptively, and for this you will need to face the consequences of such. Be a woman. Accept your blame. Learn your lesson. Move on. It's not the end of the world, even if you decide to accept the burden and joys of motherhood. Take care of yourself.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (22 December 2007):
 To be perfectly honest it could be either one of theirs, the pot smokers, or this other guys. I guess you would lean more torwards the healthier guy as being the father, but the only thing that will make it 100% certain is if you get a test done. I can't envisage a happy ending here, because its inevitable that your current boyfriend will find out that you have been unfaithful. And letting someone that you hardly know come inside you, not only are the odds very high that you will fall pregnant, but also contracting STDs are high on the list too.
Kenny x
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