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writes:ive been seeing a guy for about 3 months. he's really nice and genuine but im not in love with him. he tells me he loves me. the other night i was out with some male company, people who i have known a while. we weren't particularly sober, we had a bottle of wine each. me and one lad (25) were the last ones up. he was gunna sleep downstairs but he asked if he could come to bed with me. i said yeah sillily and one thinglead to another. In the morning he wanted to have sex again and so did i but we didnt. anyway, he rang me last night saying he wanted to meet up again. i said i didnt know weather too, since ive got a bf and he has got a partner and kids. what do you think i should do? should i tell him it cant happen again? thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (8 September 2007):
DO NOT DO IT AGAIN! If he has a partner too, then say you can't. Not being in love with your partner doesn't mean much. Do you mean that you don't see yourself ever falling in love with him, or that it is too soon? If you mean that you don't think you're right for each other and it won't work in the long term, then end that now too. No use being miserable while leading him on. It will just make it harder later.
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reader, rcn +, writes (8 September 2007):
 First, tell him know. You're not only going to hurt your boyfriend, but you are assisting him in hurting his own children, and partner. Second tell your boyfriend, you have to go. You cheated and you have lost your right by cheating to continue the relationship with him. He deserves to know this happened. You took yourself out of the relationship, with another. He deserves to have someone who loves him, and should be given that decision to make himself. As far as the other one. Sex doesn't equal love, nor does it equal a relationship. I would tell him the same. If he doesn't love his partner, he needs to be a man and tell her so. That should have been done first before cheating.LAST BUT MOST IMPORTANT: You slept with someone who has a partner and kids. Put yourself in her place, if you continue to see him, what his infidelity is doing to their family, will happen to you next.
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