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writes:I have had a real big problem with my mother ever since i caught her cheating on my father that was when i was twelve and now im 18. The thing is she will lie to any one that will listen. She says my dad used to beat her. He would never ever hurt a woman. He didnt even hit me when he walked in my room and caught me having sex with my ex at 13. How can i respect my mum when she makes up lies about my father then calls him babe and rubs up against him even he hates this. She even tells people he left her because she wanted to study age care thats a huge lie as my dad was encouraging her to.
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reader, skates89us +, writes (9 September 2010):
Yeah although this post is an old post. I had this happen to me at the same age 12 and I have never forgiven her for it nor have I ever respected her for it. She is 70 years old and I still cannot stand her for it. It wont go away. I walked in on her with my father so I know how you feel. This must be very troubling for you as it has been for me. I hope posting this here helps me to get past it because I have absolutely no respect for the woman and you dont even want to know what I feelNot to mention she was verbally abusive and physically also. I have abused her back hoping to avenge the pain she has caused but it doesnt help the fact that she is who she is a verbally abusive woman who is very very strangeI live on my own but I try to make it a better life daily by doing different things but underneath when I see her I cringe. I want this to go away and it is obvious she is living way to long. I dont want her to die but I find myself feeling like I could care less and just knowing I want this constant pain I feel when I see her to end. I hope to God you find peace and that you turn out to be a good woman in spite of your mom. May God bless you in this respect alwaysMike
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reader, SuperSammie  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 tell your mother how you feel, and tell her how much you hate the lies and that its upsetting you.
if she respects and loves you more than she loves cheating, then she should stop the lies and stop the cheating - for you.
don't fall out with your mother, because she is still your mom, and deep down you still love her no matter what she does.
but tell her if she doesn't stop the lies and the cheating then you can't live in the same house with her anymore, as it's makin you physicly sick.
this should make her realise what she has been doing and want to change.
if not i suggest finding your own place for a while, or you willl continue to hate her and your relationship will break.
hope this helps x
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reader, IndecisiveRos +, writes (20 August 2008):
I think you should write your mum a letter telling her how you feel. Parents are sentimental and through a letter you can argue your case better. No offence but your mum does sound like a bitch, or at least it seems like she has serious problems that she has to deal with. I suggest you move out, you can't help your parents. I know it's hard, but just move out. Get away from them for a while.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): You can't change how you're feeling. You're mom is a bitch and a whore, and you just have to accept that. Move out of your home and just live your life. You know the truth about your parents and that's all that matters. But do still keep a relationship with your mom. Even though, she is who she is and lies and cheats, she is your mom. And if you really hate her for it, tell her. Write here a note, or tell it to her face.
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