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writes: Hi, my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. He is real sensitive and wants me to move in. He gave me the key and said come and go as I please. I really love him. I know were he is at all times. We are together more than 1/2 the day. I just went out of town and came back and seen a girl's number in his received and dial calls. I confronted him the next day but he already erased it. He told me I was seeing things and I was confused. He said he never heard of this girl's name. He made up several lies and swore it wasn't in his phone. He said it was a call his brother probably made and called him & his brother lied for him. He finally confessed. He said she called and he returned it. He talked for 5 mins. He swears nothing happen. He said he lied because the situation made him look like something did. Can I trust him still? Has he lied about anything else? Should I break up with him?Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (14 July 2005):
 This is the problem with lies. One becomes another and another... The biggest issue is that if someone lies once, can they do it again ? So I can see why you are concerned.
First and foremost, who is this girl anyway? How well does he know her?
How come you just happen to see the number on his phone? Were you looking at his phone when he wasn't around as that would mean you didn't entirely trust him anyway! Perhaps you happen to see the number when he was holding his phone? Anyway, now you do have a trust issue. He could be telling the truth about this though. I mean, he may have lied because he thought you would jump to the wrong conclusion (would you?) but the problem is that he's made the situation worse now.
You need to speak to him again and find out exactly why he lied, try to glean the chances of him doing it again. You say he is really sensitive and you do love him so perhaps that is enough to give him another chance to be always honest with you.
Only you can decide.
Good luck.
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