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writes: Recently my daughter has split from her boyfriend who she has been going out with for about a year. From the start I have looked upon as the son I never had- Ihave 3 daughters. My daughter is devastated over the split but I also feel very low and am constantly crying. Is this natural? Am I going through some sort of mid-life crisis or just going mad? Can anyone help me understand why Im feeling like this? Reply to this Question
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reader, momofone  +, writes (10 September 2008):
Actually some of your reaction IS normal. Why wouldn't you grieve for the loss of a child that is part of your life. You want to support your own child...they are your primary responsibility but it is only natural to miss a child you probably liked very much. If you cannot come to terms with these feelings or the sadness becomes worse, consider talking with your doctor about other potential causes.
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reader, angelina +, writes (15 July 2005):
I don't think it's normal for you to be so upset. Having boyfriends and breaking up is natural and healthy, it's a learning experience. Your daughter may be sad for awhile, but it will pass and she will be wiser for it.
I suspect something else may be bothering you, and for some reason this, subconsciously, has just been a sort of excuse to "open the floodgates." Are you aware of anything in your life that has been troubling you or making you feel sad lately? Do you have a habit of holding your feelings inside, instead of expressing them?
You might try doing some journaling to try to tap into whatever deeper feelings and concerns you may have, and of which you might not be consciously aware.
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