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writes: Hello my name is Emma and me and my boyfriend have been with each other for about 10 months now. I love going out with him but I find his family a real problem. I've tried so hard to get on with them but I just can't. I'm not very confident as it is and his sister makes comments about how I look, plus my dad is a bit overweight and my boyfriend's dad is really horrible about my dad'a weight and appearence. I really do not know what brought this on because I am always polite when I go around my boyfriend's house and my dad and his dad have never ever had an argument to cause him to say the horrible things he does. I want to stay with my boyfriend because I really do love him but I really feel like his family are coming in the way. Every time I go around there I'm really nervous because I worry what will be said about my family or even what comments his sister makes to me.I never feel comfortable around there and even when things are said I'm too shy to say things back and I dont want to cause arguments, otherwise there will be arguments with me and my boyfriend.Please can anyone give me advice on what to do?
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reader, Delila +, writes (27 September 2005):
Hi Emma,
From what you are saying it sounds as if your'e boyfriend is not sticking up for you when his family disrespect you. You are saying that you are afraid to say anything incase you cause arguments between you and your boyfriend, this implies to me that he will not see anything bad said against them. Shyness is one thing girl but lacking selfrespect is a totally different ball game. Don't let anyone disrespect you or your father, if a stranger across the street said nasty stuff to you would you stand and listen? No I think you would walk away fast. Why are you allowing a guy to dis you and then have sex with you? it doesn't make any sense. You don't have to be afraid to lose this guy. If he lets his family be mean to you then he is a pig. Get out while the going is good. Find someone that loves you.
Delila
PS love yourself enough
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2005): This may be hard but you must tell your boyfriend how you feel about his family, goodluck
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