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*amantha83
writes:I just moved to a new city and quickly became friends with someone in my building. We have a lot in common and I find it easy to talk with him. Anyway, after a month of snippets of conversations, he asked for my number so we could hang out sometime. (This is less of a red flag than it sounds like; our building is large and we don't see each other often.) A week or so later, we went out for dinner. It was fine, but I was a little nervous and not my usual, charming self. ;) I left the dinner excited about how much I liked him, but not super happy with my anxiety that made act less like myself. A little bit over a week later I called him to see if he wanted to do something. We ended up grabbing a drink and had an amazing night of conversation and laughs. I was surprised again by our similarities and common interests. My question is how can I possibly tell if this is a friendship or a romantic relationship. Nothing has happened physically between us, but I feel like there is a spark and we are both single. I am probably just antsy to find out what is going on, but the wait is making me a little bit crazy. (Also, if it matters, he did insist on paying for the dinner and cocktails with varying excuses.)Any thoughts on this?
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reader, samantha83 +, writes (22 November 2008):
samantha83 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice!! It was absolutely worth it's weight in gold. I will be sure to check back and let you what happens, but for now it is nice to know that I can stop worrying and know that everything is more or less on track. (My theory is that this reaction is what happens after years of dating via bars, parties, and the internet. Meeting someone in a conventional way has thrown me off!)
Thank you again to everyone!
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reader, Teacake +, writes (21 November 2008):
 Unless you have a crystal ball that really works, no one knows the future. Just have fun and don't think about the end result. Just enjoy it for what it is. It might develop into something more or it might not. He will let you know if he wants to take it to another level and when that happens you won't have to wonder.
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reader, samantha83 +, writes (21 November 2008):
samantha83 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOops. I somehow put in my age incorrectly when filling out the form. I am 29 (and he is 30).
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