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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyoneI have been having a casual fling with this chick and I'm unable to tell if she's actually having an orgasm when i go down on her, like she gets real into it and then stops me as if she did but i have been unable to sense any of the usual signs a chicks had an orgasm e.g. no tightening that I can feel, can't feel tensing in her adomen etc is she stopping me from making her orgasm or does she just have a different tell then what I'm used to?? I just want to make sure I'm getting the job done right as she always returns the favour after
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (1 March 2013):
 well you can ask her why she's making you stop... that would make the most sense to me.. I mean you are close enough to have sex... you should be close enough to ASK.
If I have an orgasm from oral sex then my partner would HAVE to stop... I get very sensitive... but I've always had to tell them to stop there apparently is not "a tell" for me... I've even had to PUSH them away....
for me I've noticed that the clitoris will retract into the body just before an orgasm for many women.. that's a very subtle sign that an orgasm is close...
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2013): If she's not complaining don't worry about it. OP many women really don't like being brought to full orgasm and will stop you. I know it sounds counter-intuitive but lots don't like that loss of control, the vulnerability and feel a little embarrassed too, especially if they're squirters, others can find it completely overwhelming too.
It's also possible you get carried away and are a little too rough in that moment.
The best thing you can do is ask her why she stops you. tell her you just want to make sure she gets the pleasure she deserves and if she needs you to do anything different done then you'll do it no problem at all.
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