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writes: How Do I Tell My Teacher That I Love Him?,I've Liked him For About 3 Years and loved him for about a year.we get on soo well and he's realli cute although he is 10 years older he doesn't seem it infact he acts like a 16 year old boy. No matter what I do I can't stop thinking about him and what our lives would be like if we were together.I have tried endlessly not to like him,but I can't.I Leave School In Two Months so I Have To Tell Him how I feel so that I can move forward and have no ifs or buts x.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (7 April 2010):
 (sigh) 16years old, nearly ready to leave school and your writing and spelling are still so bad. You should have concentrated more on your lessons and spent less time thinking about men.
You want to get over your teacher... start studying hard and think about what you are going to do next. That probably means further studying because at the moment there is no company that would risk employing you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have no idea wt u sed to me,but the wastn tym bit,I'm nt thts y I have posted. Anova question askin for advice about how to get over him as I can't tell or b wiff him
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWat r u on.mate u need to get some listening skills,I'm guna say this once more "I'm NOT GOING TO TELL HIM" so how can he say thanks but no thanks?,and do u really know me to judge how mature I am?,iv been through a lot and had to be a rock for my family,aswell as juggle school life etc,infact I think I'm pretty damn mature,more than you anyway
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNope.I'm not guna tell him :(,I dnt wana ruin or jeopordise his job and our realtionship.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (6 April 2010):
 Well the two months will fly by and you'll be free!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDid I even say that I wanted sex? Not everythin revolves around sex u no!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJheez,I wasn't even aware that I wanted him to get me pregnant.are u sure that that response was meant for my question?
P.s that's to q1605
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo he's my form tutor aso I see him in the mornin for 20 mins in the afta noon for 20 mins,he's also my PE teacher so I can sumtimes have him for 2 hour lessons,which means its virtually impossible to stay away from him lolx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 April 2010):
This crush will fade faster if you stay away from him as much as possible. Once you graduate and are gone, you'll feel much better. Just curious though, was he your English teacher by any chance?
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reader, Miamine +, writes (6 April 2010):
Got no problems with people having feelings or falling in love with someone. But actions that embarrass others, bother them or have to deal with "your feelings", really aren't fair.
This guy is at work. In another situation, this could be classed as sexual harassment. Men teachers are very fearful at the moment and many leave the teaching profession because of the dangers of working with girls in love.
You have feelings, yep, it may be hard to believe, but so dose he. Feelings, wishes and desires that you have no idea about.
But none of this matters, this love will disappear as you get older, and your not going to send the letter now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMiamine
I don't appreciate u calling me a stupid girl"he has to put up with stupid girls who think they are in love" I'm asking for advice,not to be called stupid,u hav no idea how I feel and no right to assume that I'm stupide because I am 16 and have feelings for my teacher.I'm only human and I cannot help it,and if u had raed my other replies u wud hav seen that I am no longer goin to tell him as I care for him,sorry if that's still selfish to u.I'd appreciate if you didn't offer me any advice,as it really isn't helpful,thanks
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reader, Miamine +, writes (5 April 2010):
And this love thing.. your love sounds a bit selfish to me.. this guy knows you like him, if he loves you then he can track you down once you leave school.
But no, you love him, you need to tell him, and stff what he feels, what he's doing and what commitments he has. He probably has a girlfriend, but do you care, nope, your in love, you are selfish, only what you care about matters here.
Anyway it dosen't matter.. this guy is doing a job, he has to put up with stupid girls who think they are in love so he can get paid and pay his bills and hand out with his adult friends.
Send your letter it won't hurt, he aint interested, he can show it to his mates and they can all have a laugh and you will feel better about telling this teacher who aint interested, that you love him very much.
Don't know why you young girls think your so special that an adult man wants you instead of a sensible adult woman, who has experience and knows tons of stuff that young girls like you don't understand.. send your letter, again, it can't do any harm cause he won't be interested.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (5 April 2010):
Jaii dixie,
haven't read the rest of the posts, but are you aware that the laws regarding teenagers has recently changed. The new law seeks to protect children from harm and extends that protect until the age of 18 (Sexual offences law 2003 UK)
You are not allowed to sleep with a teacher or any professional or guardian who had care of you before the age of 18.
If you and an adult knew each other before the age of 16 and then had sex, he can be sent to prison for "grooming" if he has sex with you once you reach the legal age of consent (16 in the UK)
Guardians and people in positions of trust must wait until you are now 18 or they can be sent to jail.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_Offences_Act_2003
http://www.statutelaw.gov.uk/content.aspx?activeTextDocId=820904
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's what iv been doin over the past few ours and I have reconsidered wt I'm going to do,he's such a nice guy and I'd hate to jepordise his career by telling him that I love him when we can't b together.so know I just need to figure out how to gwet over him and fast cos I can't take no more of this unrequinted love,it hurts too much and its the last thing I need.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 April 2010):
No, but I certainly know a girl who has. The teacher in question did lose his job and did go to jail for six months before coming out to nothing, because he'd also be sued, and she ended up having to see a psychiatrist because it completely messed her up. Now I'm not saying you'll obviously have that happen to you, but I am warning you that this is something that could go seriously wrong for no reason. You must be realistic. It is illegal for any teacher to have anything to do with a student or previous student under the age of 18 in the UK. And even then, after that it can have implications should something go wrong. Apart from that, you are setting yourself up for something that could leave him feeling terribly awkward, and you hurt. I know you want to do it, but this is something that can't happen. you are setting yourself and him up for trouble by doing this. Please think about his situation as well as your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't understand how,if I am no longer a student,sorry if I don't seem to be making sense to you but this is hard for me,have you ever been in my situation?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 April 2010):
You're going to end up getting him fired for this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThnx I think I'm guna talk to him (as we get on) and say firstly,I'm guna say to him"if I told u something personal,would you respect my wishes and keep it quiet"(I'm sure he'll say yes,as he has said to me before that I can come to him about anything),then I'm going to give him a letter explaining evereythin but I'm nt guna sign my name so that if he. Shows anyone,there will be no proof that I wrote it,even though I'm goin to giv it to him on my last,therefore he won't see me unless he responds the way I want to my letter.even though I knowq that ther is 0.1% chance tht wat I want will happen,I'm goin to tell him either way as I feel that its wat I need to do to move on.thanks for your helpful options ;)
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reader, sarahwolf +, writes (5 April 2010):
hey i know you want someone to say the is hope but am afarid i don't think the is, but i do have some sugestions on telling him if you like, to help get him out your system and all
1. tell him out right
2. get someone to tell him for you
3. write him a message
4. send a e-mail
5. tell a diffrent teacher as they will surely tell him
hope it helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk bbe I do appreciate ur help though.I guess I'm just guna have to live and learn,I will keep u up to date and you might just get to say I told u so lol.I just feel stuck and I guess I just want someone to say that there's hope for me.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThats the thing we get on soo well that we jke around and he has said ino u like me and laughs,and I denied,then he sed (my name) I'm jokin, which is wat I relli do regret now as iv completely confused.so now I dnt know if he knows or not and the seriousness of my feelingsx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk well thnx for your advice but I still don't know wt to do.in response to some of your answers I wud jst lyk to say tht aswell as actin like a 16 year old he does act mature when neededs.and I would also like to add that I know he's interested in me as we are always flirting with eacvhother and even my friends hav noticesd tht its no longer just a one sided thing.soo plz can I hav some advice on how to tell him on my last day of school,tht way I neva av to c him agen and no one will no and if they do they ohwell as I won't b a student anymorx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 April 2010):
There are no if's of but's. It won't happen. Ever.
1 - It's illegal since he is your teacher.
2 - You're a student, and he won't be interested.
3 - If you do say something, he could end up fired or you could end up in serious trouble at school.
If you tell him, you are putting his future at serious risk. You can't tell him.
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reader, Tasmanian devil +, writes (3 April 2010):
 Are you sure you want to do that you could get him into a lot of trouble, and the reason he acts like a 16 year old is probably because he wants to be one of those cool teachers, do you really think he got where he is acting like a kid? Hes probably a lot different in reality and there is like zero chance of anything happening. Sori x
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