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writes:my husband has worked abroad for many years and he is now looking at coming back home to work, and although i love him dearly i just cant bear him being around all the time. He never goes out and is checking up on me all the time and I feel like I dont have a life when he is back. When he is away I can come and go as I please and not have to think of anyone but myself, how can I tell him this without breaking his heart and our marriage, I feel so selfish about all off this but he is a very controlling man and he can say very hurtful things and I just say it's ok and just get on with it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): This is not an uncommon problem. I have especially heard of this among older couples when the man retires and is suddenly home all the time. It changes the dynamics of the relationship when that buffer zone is gone. Not every couple is alike and some need more space from their partner than others do. I would suggest that you encourage him to get involved with activities that will get him out of the home sometimes, so you can have some time to yourself. If that doesn't work, find things for you to do that will occupy your time. Realistically, things will never be the same with him coming home and you will probably have to learn to compromise and adapt. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find a solution.
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