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writes:Hey guys,I officially broke up with my boyfriend in December. Reasons: i didnt feel like i loved him anymore.I never felt like doing anything with him and was completely disinterested. i dreaded him touching me for some reason.He bored me. All he would talk about was one band or music.I hated the way he looked. His hair was longer than mine right down his back and he had started putting on weight.He had no ambition when i had tones and he was unemployed for a year (still was)and couldnt be bothered looking for another job.My feelings:i regret breaking up with him. i no that i loved him very much and a big part of me still does. but the fact is that he hasnt changed since then. i had spoken to him about it all way before. we went out for 2 years and i spoke to him constantly through intervals for a year before the break up and me loosing my feelings. he did nothing. I feel like if he could just change his appearance id find him attractive and not grossed out when he touched me. If he could take more interest in what i was interested in and do sumthing together. stop talking about music all the time (he repeats the biography of Queen everytime i meet him and does trivia answers every so often that i reli dnt care about).I really felt like i loved him before and i cant get it out of my head. i really regret leaving but i could not get on with him. it drove me mad. Now:He stil wants to be friends with me. im dating another guy. i really like this guy and trying to get over my previous bf but im finding it very difficult. I cant seem to stay friends with my ex. everytime he talks to me i just become uncontrolably angry and want to cause fights with him. i feel like i blame him for everything. he says he loves me and wants to win me back but hes stil not changed or trying to. he moans that y wouldnt i be ok with him going out with someone else. i couldnt stand it. If he went with someone else and changed i wud b even more heart broken. I would like to forget him but i dnt no how. im not that kind of person. i cant forget ppl. i cant say goodbye to anyone perminantly unless forced. It was so hard because -I- ended the relationship and I seem like the bad person. how can i get over him? what should i do? i feel like he can be one of my biggest regrets.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 You are hurt and angry with him.
If you keep those feelings inside of you ,
you will never find closure and you will only be tormented by those thoughts.
If you want to end and stop this mental agony ,
you need to release your hurts and anger to God.
You need to forgive him for any wrongs that he has done to you .
Forgiving him will allow God to heal your hurts .
You will find that your burdens will be lifted once you forgive him.
Forgive all those who hurt you and do not keep grudges .
Have you forgiven him?
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reader, Aeval  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Stop talking to him, stop letting him run your life, its your choice at the end of the day if you want to let him in your life and how much you do.
It sounds like you need closure,easy. Tell him you don't want to see him anymore and change your number. You will be suprised as to how fast you forget him. Concentrate on your new relationship. If you still struggle then get some help.
He won't change, this is who he is.
Good luck
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