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writes: I've had a crush on a female friend for some time. A few months ago however, some of my friends blabbed to her about my crush on messanger. Her response? She told them she wasn't interested in me that way. I found out, then she emailed and basically said to forget about the incident. Fine.A week ago she messages me out of the blue, i read the messages to be quite flirtatious (she used the phrase "are you lonely?" mentioned a gift i sent her, and pinned xoxoxo's to the end of the messages). It's quite late so she says to chat with her on messanger some time. Basically I talk with her the next day, all she wants to talk about is some guy she just met that night that she really has a crush on.What is with this girl? Is she just forgetful, is she devious or is she dropping an unsubtle hint that she doesn't want me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2005): Sorry pal, she likes you only as a friend. It is highly likely she likes another person...a lot. They could've had a disagreement and she just felt lonely. Messaging you and flirting was her way of asserting in her mind that she was desirable and someone..anyone...still finds her still attractive. She used you...very selfish on her part and I feel you were just a 'balm" to soothe her hurt feelings. Move ahead...go find someone else who truely admires you and will treat you with respect. You sound like a great guy and there are many nice girls out there who would like to spend time with you. Pay no heed to her flirtiness...she did it for her own gain-her own shallow ego...not you. Go find someone who doesn't play petty, hurtful mind games with other people's feelings. Remember..not all girls are like this-make the best choice!The one for you is out there....go find her! And enjoy life.
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reader, fan24_5_48_25 +, writes (23 June 2005):
Maybe she does like you but she wants you to make the first move. You should answer her back and be all flirty. You never know, it might work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2005): She was proabably a little flirty because she needed something from you (talking about another guy). She is not interested in you in that way - move on. Once you are the "friend" it is hard to move past this stage.
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reader, aunt april  +, writes (23 June 2005):
People can be very flirtatious without knowing it. I think that's what the texts were. I also think she sees you as just a friend. Sit it out and see where it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2005): From what you've stated in your letter, it seems that this girl is only interested in you as a friend. Two incidents suggest this to me: you have heard from your friends that she isn't interested in you in a sexual way, and she has made it clear that she has feelings for somebody else. She probably doesn't realise what impact her words are having on you. You seem to be reading too much into the fact she ends messages with xx's (I often put xx's on messages to my platonic friends.)I think you need to let this one go, and find somebody who is genuinely interested in you. Unrequited love is a recipe for misery. Hope this helps, all the best.
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