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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I can't feel a thing when i have sex.I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year and we have regular sex. I have tried everything, different positions, toys, getting him to touch my clit where it feels good when i do it but it doesn't work.I haven't told him this as hes on the small side with little confidence, i don't mind about his size btw..Whats wrong with me? All my friends say how they enjoy sex and i'm just not enjoying it.I love my boyfriend and i don't mind about sex i just want to feel what all my friends feel.
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reader, wherestheinstructions? +, writes (28 July 2009):
Faking things and not telling him the truth isn't doing him or you any favours. Also, psychologically, that deceit is in your mind every time you have sex, and may have an effect on your ability to relax - a prerequisite for a good session.
But as the other poster said, you may wish to check with your GP as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the reply.
I can tighten my muscles down there but it doesn't solve anything and we do try alot of foreplay and i just have to fake everything.
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reader, Knight_in_White_Satin +, writes (28 July 2009):
 well the fact you can't feel the toys (which btw if u use a vibrator are larger than the average penis)may raise some concern. First try these and if still nothing i suggest going to see your GP or Gynacologist.
Is he pressing firmly enough when he rubs your clit- is there enough moisture?
Relax at all times, maybe try more foreplay to relax you and highten feeling of arousal- (licking melted chocolate, strawberries and squirty cream are a personal fave here ;p)
Can you tighten your muscles down there whilst he's inside- this one also increases his pleasure so be careful- which should lessen if not take care of the size "problem".
final suggestion is to stop focusing and aiming to feel what your friends do and to just enjoy the feeling (a bit like not aiming to reach orgasm with masturbation and just letting it happen.) hope this helps :) xxx
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