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writes:I have been married for the last 12 years, have wonderful 2 kids. My husband is a good man. We belong to different cultures. It was a difficult for me to adjust but I knew what I was getting into. I fell out of love with him a long time back. I dont miss him if he's not around. I rather not be around him. I get scared to be happy if it's is not associated it with him. We are an envy as a couple, and both of us have worked hard to reach where we are. I cannot love him, I try very hard. I just cannot. Is something wrong with me. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2010): You were never in love with him to begin with...you may have had fond feelings for him that you thought was love, but it turned out not to be that way...believe me when you fall in love...you Will KNOW.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your answers. Back to my problem... Yes I can talk to him but he does not think that there is a problem. He thinks I need to see a counsellor becoz of my issues with my own family, growing up etc, which he may be right. Yes, he does love me a lot. Sex is wham bang thank you mam for the last so many years of my life. Now I just switch off. I am just so overwhelmed with guilt for not loving him like the way he expects me to.
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reader, ljhenhmla  +, writes (17 December 2010):
Why are u so unhappy? Have u spoke to him as to what he has done to make u feel this way? Communication is key to any relationship he not a mindreader he may be doing something that he does not realize. Does he love u?
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reader, OliviaAna +, writes (17 December 2010):
 I really hope you can talk to him...mine just walks off when it comes to discussions of any kind. I can approach him in a calm quiet voice with a cup of coffee to talk and off he goes...He thinks the world revolves around him and I'm just the maid. Watch me waste no more of my time on this selfish jerk. Fourteen years was waaaay too long to tolerate him. I haven't considered myself in love with him for the last four years now. He is as cold as ice. Move along and be happy, please. Counseling did not work...I had to go by myself because he said it was my problem, not his. My New Year really will be brand new without this creep in it! I'm sooo outta here!
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reader, Liebes Kummer  +, writes (17 December 2010):
Well, i don't mean to sound insensitive but, if you don't love him and 'cannot love him' then i guess it's about that time you got out if the relationship.
Although, i must say, there are millions of people living in a relationship where there is no love. In the olden days, women married first and then loved the husband later. (I'm not advocating it , i'm just stating facts.)
You need to ask yourself if you are happy, if you are, then by all means remain with him. If not, then let him know how you feel.
I have to say though, that i think something must have happened to make you 'fall out of love' with him.
You may want to sit down and do some soul searching, if you want the relationship to work.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (17 December 2010):
 Sounds like something has happened to you; deep inside that you can't pin-point what exactly. It sounds like deep down inside you love him but something has just started changing. Try talking to your husband about this and perhaps try couples' counseling - the doc would be able to pin-point exactly how you're feeling and why you're feeling like this. And what your husband can do to help you feel better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2010): Maybe it is YOU not HIM per say....if he is a good man, and has done no wrong, you need to look within yourself. Maybe you shouldn't have married him to begin with.
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