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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I really need a male perspective on this one. It seems like try as I might I can never establish a relationship with a guy. I've been acquainted with this guy for five years we started hooking up a year ago, but it's been rather sporadic. He's someone I can totally see myself dating. So I decided to let him know how I felt unfortunately I decided to do it through text, which he responded to but completely skirted the issue at hand. So what's a girl to think other that he clearly doesn't feel the same way and you should move on. We didn't speak for almost a month and in my eyes that clearly means he has no interest in pursuing anything more with me. Unfortunately, we both relocated to the same city and a week after moving I get a text from him saying he wanted to spend time with me. I assumed since he bothered to contact me after me telling him I really like him he must have feel the same way. He comes over we end up hooking up, the next morning he says he will call. Never got that call! I just don't understand it. Because we live in a small town and have the same circle of friends I'm constantly bumping into him or hearing about him. Which is making it hard for me to get over him. I think it's clear that he has no interest in pursuing anything substantial with me, and I'm sooooo tired of being fucked over I feel like I should confront him. I wanna know why I wasn't good enough for him to consider me as a partner and why he chose to send me mixed messages most importantly I want to let him know that he hurt me tremendously! I just feel like I shouldn't let him off the hook that easily but letting him know he hurt me, will it even make a difference? I'm just so tired of playing games and always being the loser. What should I do, if there is anything I can do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2010): It sounds to me like he didn't really send you any mixed messages. He didn't call when he should have called, but that's the only mixed message I see here. That's not a very significant one.
Time to grow up, honey. The fact that a guy wants to continually sleep with you does not indicate that he is considering forming a relationship with you sooner or later. I think you were hearing what you wanted to hear instead of what he was saying.
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