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writes:Hi,I am 16 years old and am in love with my former teacher. I know there is so many questions on this website about this issue, but I just need some specific help. I have known him for 3 years now, and he taught me for two. I moved away at the end of last year to another city and haven't seen him since. I miss him so much and I think about him all the time. I'm not stupid I know It's wrong in so many ways, but I honestly can't help it. I wish I could get over him. Can someone please help me? How can I forget him? I have had quite a few boyfriends my own age but I'm just not interested in them, they are so immature. I recently broke up with my boyfriend because I just couldn't continue a relationship with someone when I am in love with someone else. My ex teacher and I talk on facebook almost every night and he says he enjoys talking to me. He is 31 and married with one child. I know nothing will ever happen, and I know it would be wrong if it did, but then why do I feel this connection?Before I moved, when he would walk into the class his eyes would immediately connect with mine. When I walked into a room I couldn't help looking for him, all I saw was him. Why do I get the feeling that he has feelings for me too?I do not want to feel this way!I want to like guys my age.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2009): don't tell him. maybe go back and see him one last time to say a real goodbye and get some closure... and then cut all contact.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (8 November 2009):
 don't tell him.
I know it's difficult, i was in love with my teacher, (i'm 16, he's 40)
i could see us getting together, i thought he liked me too. He was so nice and caring, I thought there could come a time where we'd have an affair or that he might leave his wife. He was the first person that I was convinced I would marry.
Then I found out my aunt (my mum's brother's wife) was having an affair and I watched as the family got torn apart. Her kids won't talk to her anymore and I realized that no matter how much I loved my teacher, he had so much to lose - wife, kids, job, and I'd hate to be the other woman.
Even if he did like you, you shouldn't go for it. If you ended up together you'd probably break up and be devestated. Think back a few years ago, you probably thought you were mature and but you can see how much maturing you have done since, it's normal to be friends with someone at any age, but when it comes to love it's slightly different. He probably thinks you still have a lot of growing up to do.
Even my friend who went out with a 19 year old when she was 15 said there was too much of an age gap to make it work properly.
Now think of the friendship you have with him. Do you want to lose it? How awkward would it be? If he is happy with his wife he might tell her and if you ever saw that family it would involve many cold feelings.
Your better off going out with your friends and finding someone the same age as you. Even though many boys at 16/17 still talk about farts and seem very immature, you will also find they have a very romantic side and can be perfect for you.
good luck
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust to add something, do you think I should tell him via instant messenger?
thanks.
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