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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone,I am 15 and this slight issue is something which really I think shoudn't be part of my life at this age.I met a boy when I was on vacation and we continued to talk using the internet. We were talking for just over a month and at first I was flattered from his complements . . .I ended up complementing him back as I felt I had to from all the complements he gave me. As you can probably guess, one day he decides to tell me he loves me. Stupid me finding it rather amusing claims I love him back - this is one mistake I am really learning from.Suddenly this boy is planning his life with me and is coming over this year to see me. I tried to tell him I was confused and didn't know what I wanted and just wanted to be friends for now - did it work? No!So as a last resort I deleted his conatact information but I clearly did this badly as today I opened my email account - and sure enough - after only two days of not talking there is an email from his.The thing is I can't decide if he is 'for real' or not. I just want to forget I ever spoke to him and move on with my life, which is what I have been doing just fine these past two days.I know I never should of lied to him about my apparent 'feelings' for him, that wasn't fair on him, but no one ever spoke to me or was interested in me that way so I didn't beleive him.Anyway how am I suppose to forget him, if I receive his emails??? I really don't know how to tell him, when we spoke we did have a lot in common, and there are many things I like about him and also several things I don't. Should I just ignor him and hope that eventually he will get bored and move on then forget me too? Comments are always apreciated, thank you
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (16 June 2011):
 I think I answered your first question where you asked what to do about this boy! Well he does sound persistent, I think it is best to block his email address (go into the settings on your email account and you should be able to find it).
I cant remember what country you said he is from, but you are right to be concerned about him - his behaviour is typical foreigner looking to use a girl to get access to the UK and to get a Visa. If he is talking about coming over here, and planning his life with you - that shows that he could well be trying to use you to get out of his own country to live in the UK.
Better to be safe than sorry in this case, just block him and it will be problem solved. And dont feel bad - you only met the guy once, he is either a bit obssessive or desperate to come to the UK and leave his country - neither of which are good qualities in a man.
You have tried telling him nicely that you want to be friends, and he ignored that - so it is his own fault for getting a bit too creepy and intense. Block his email address and delete him from Facebook etc if you have him on any of your other accounts, so there is no way he can get to you.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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