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*hloe71z
writes:What do I do when my husband has money in his pocket from his paycheck but uses the money from my paycheck to by things or to eat out from our joint account. This Iritates me to no end. I have already told him that it bothers me but still he does it anyway. Like just now I called him asked him to use the money in the account to bring me something to eat. but instead he baught himself something and our daughter and his son something before bringing me anything to eat I understand that the kids need to eat and that dont bother me so much but. He has money in his pocket over 50 dollars. All I have is like 30 dollers to last me for the next 2 weeks and about 40 dollars to put gas in my car till then also. I am so pissed.
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reader, chloe71z +, writes (17 August 2008):
chloe71z is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you both for your excelant insite. I did do something a little difrant about his using the joint acount for them to eat. when I called and told him what I wanted to eat i told him since you used the acount for ya'll to eat then YOU can pay cash for my meal. HE gave in very quikly, And under stud why I was angry. He didnt say another word about it. I thaught it was pretty clever myself. I know I know it was just a quik fix for that night but victory is sweet even when it is small. Thanks again.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Hi Chloe, I understand why you're angry with him. I guess it's time to have THE MONEY TALK with him. Why aren't both of your paychecks going into the joint account? Or at least an agreed-on portion of each one? You can generally get direct deposit set up and have the paycheck split into the joint and a personal account. But you two need to agree on this.
Try to set a budget down on paper, then sit down with him and go over all the expenses and your dual income and agree on a game plan together. If he balks at having his paycheck deposited too, then maybe you need to rethink how yours is dealt with.
Getting angry is certainly understandable here! I think though that for this discussion, you need to stay calm and firm. Don't get het up and risk sounding hysterical. Men can often tune out what they think is a nagging unreasonable woman. Stick to being calm, firm and reasonable.
I hope things work out for you both.
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