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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I think im not good looking, so i have very little confidence in asking out any girl that i like.... what do i do? are looks important to women? im not good looking AT ALL... do i have any hope?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): Confidence and humor, used in tandem well, is all that is required to attract any woman there is. The better your ability to blend confidence and humor, the higher the quality of women you will be able to attract. It takes a lot of courage and a lot of practice to get better. Start with just flirting with women who are low on your rung and that you won't be too shy around because you don't really care whether you fail or not. And just systematically work your way up.
Remember, they need to be together to work right, too much confidence and you're are an arrogant ass, too much humor and you're not serious, just a goofball. Neither of those is attractive, you can do and say anything you want if you mix those two right.
Being physically unattractive can be tough, you just have to minimize your weakness (Dress nicely, present yourself well with good posture, increase your physical fitness) and develop and maximize strengths (Confidence+humor, wealth and power, intelligence, personality, skills in cooking, massage, sex, etc)
Henry Kissinger is a good example, despite being old and ugly, with excellent conversational and flirting skills along with great prestige and power, he was sleeping with hot babes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): It doesn't matter whether or not you're good looking, like DV1 and Aunty Sarah said, it's about confidence. Also having a good personality. I tend to fall for guys who are not overly intimidating in the good looks department as i am fairly insecure myself so if someone hot wants to go out with me i'm quite suspicious as to why :P hehe souunds silly right? But it's not uncommon i don't think, look at couples like mishcha barton and cisco adler :P.
Some people are superficial and will judge you on your looks, but they're not worth it. I personally fall completely head over heels instead for the gentleman :P
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reader, Aunty Sarah  +, writes (12 June 2007):
 Of course you do! There is a person for everyone out there. We are all unique and looks are not important to the person that is right for you. Confidence is about how you hold and carry yourself. Confidence is about respecting others and having values. You need to believe in your inner self, not the image you see in the mirror! Take care of your appearence, if you are stuggling with the way you dress then go to a good high street store and ask for advice. If you feel good about how you look (i.e clothes) then you will walk with confidence. Be patient and don't be put off by girls who laugh at you or don't give you the time of day. Believe in your self - when the right person comes along, they will see the true you.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (12 June 2007):
 The first problem is that you don't believe in yourself. Confidence commands respect. If you show that you're confident in yourself and your abilities, people will believe in you. If you don't believe in who you are, then you're not even ready to date. Look in the mirror, and when you're happy with what you see, you can change your life.
Dv1
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