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writes:My boyfriend gets angry at me all the time and can't handle it if i get angry at him. He always tries to make it out like i have no reason to be angry and that i "have problems"I am mad at him because he isn't telling me things. First about adding a girl on facebook, he lied and said she added him when he really did add her (why lie about that?). Then he neglects to tell me about 2 occassions where he dropped girls home from uni (diferent girls) and about the fact that he has their numbers and when they call him.This wouldnt normally make me angry, but you see if i have a guys number/add a guy on facebook (i cant even IMAGINE if i gave a guy a lift!!) he absolutely flips! he gets angry at me for days and makes it out like im doing something wrong. So i guess im angry that he does this stuff and tries to hide it!He told me he didnt even speak to one of the girls last semester, but now he says he gave her a lift last semester? Now he says he didn't remember about giving that girl a lift (a 40 minute ride?) thats why he didnt say anything.Am i right to be angry here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): yes u are right to be angry, i would be.my ex was very much like your current bf.i strongly suggest you get out while you still can, he may well have cheated on you with these girls
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reader, Aunty Aggy The Agony Aunt  +, writes (16 August 2010):
Hi that is just SOME guys! The reason they DONT tell us everything is because they know EXACTLY how we would react...some of us "GIRLS" do.... it is because we are insecure at times... we would flip if we knew he is giving someone a lift and the fact that they try to hide it is even worse! They make things worse for them selves by not mentioning things...but I can assure you that they do it because they are scared of our reaction!!! Ok so you could say well they shouldnt give lifts or add new friends to facebook...but you see if we start to dictate that..then we could be seen as a control freak... there is nothing wrong with giving lifts and adding friends....what IS WRONG is saying they can't ... but an alternate to saying they can't is this just sit down one night with with him and when you are both chilled just say.. I'm sorry for shouting at you about the facebook thing and giving people lifts its just that I am a little uncomfortable with it thats all..because I never do it... I want you to feel comfortable in knowing how much I care for you.... and leave it at that DONT NAG! Every guy hates a nag.. you want to be the one that he enjoys seeing and hanging around with..not the ONE that he is scared of running into because your going to keep at him for doing things... Learn to love yourself a little more be confident, they like confidence in a woman..be FUN!
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reader, Aggie Agony +, writes (16 August 2010):
You have every right to be angry,what kind of a boyfriend is he if he's going to keep things from you. It seems to me that in this realationship there are some trust issues that need to be sorted out. You two can't go on living a lie. Either you both sit down and you make him listen by explaining how you feel and ask for the truth or your realationship is doomed! You need to first be truthful with yourself before you can be truthful with him, maybe it's best if you seperate? Or maybe it's best if you take a break and give each other some time to breath before talking about the problem thats leaving you feeling the way you feel. Having a realationship suppose to have foundation on trust if you cant' trust each other, maybe your not right for each other, you need to sort that out.
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