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writes:okay. this story has a LOTTTT of background but i'm not even gonna go there (however some of it is unavoidable)its gonna get confusing, but lets start here: i'm head over heals in love with one of the school janitors. He is 13 years older than i am (me- 16, him 29... but he acts like a kid), almost to date (exactly a month off). Last year, through the LONGEST STORY i could possibly tell you, he found out that I liked him, and he knew that i knew he knew. That made him have to "watch his boundaries" and be extra careful. It wasn't my idea to have him find out though. I tried my hardest to have him never find out. anyway, this year, the long term effects of him finding out came about at one point, when my cousin and i sent him something via email, his girlfriend (YES, he has a girlfriend) saw the email, and overreacted. THAT is another long story, i'm trying to spare you long stories which could potentially be written into a teen novel. i eventually had to just tell him flat out that i did NOT like him, and he needed to understand that, so that he couldnt potentially get in trouble. Of course i DO still like him, but no one needs to know that.I KNOWWWWW like i FEEL IT STRONGLY that we are meant to be. I am determined to marry this man more than i am about anything else in life. However, i'm not going to let him know that, and i'm not going to take action UNTIL the situation is different (eg once im 18 and once he no longer is my janitor) HOWEVER, now, i think he likes me too. I mean, if you think about it, if you talk to a guy enough, he eventually HAS TO. (Yeah, we talk a lot. daily.) But he knows it won't work, and he has a girlfriend. Thats what he thinks.... but its meant to be frankly... there is SOO much more behind this but i'm trying to make it as simple as possible (which is SO HARD mind you)ANYWAYYY, everyone tells me im crazy, and that it won't happen, but i firmly believe that anything is possible with determination, and i have MORE than enough determination. it's meant to be.do you think i'm crazy? or can it happen?(hope i gave sufficient background information)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): I like Victor's answer. FIGHT FOR YOUR DREAMS! ^_^
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Hi there...I liked your story and I admire you for fighting for something you want and believe it. I'm like you. Of course you are not crazy and things can do workout for u but before diving into a serious relantionship evaluate all your life goals, imagine you guys in future, how it will be and if you feel comfortable about it and possible problems you may face it i'd say you are ready to go. you can fail but you'll only know if you try. ;)
follow your dreams, fight for them, enjoy your life and be happy. A lot of people may say bad things to you for trying something different and show you pessimistic views of your goals(avoid this people). This isn't just for your love life but for everything. Everytime you try something big or different jealous people will come and try to put you down or joke about you with others. Just be confident, talk to positive people, follow your heart wisely and don't forget happiness definition change from people to people, so its up to you to define this word. Good luck.
Victor, 23.
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"Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor ; spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in the grey twilight that knows not victory nor defeat."
Theodore Roosevelt
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): If you still feel close in two years, then great.
But, just because two people are a perfect match doesn't mean that everything will happen as it should.
We can't be with everyone we take a shine to.
What if his GF becomes pregnant?
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