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writes: I'm trying to figure out how to tell my parents that I am dating an older man. I love him with all my heart and know that he is the love of my life. He is close to the age of my parents and we started going out about a month after my 18th birthday (we've been going out now for 6mo). My parents know him and my mom even says at times that he is "like family", but I just don't know how to approach them about this. They think we are just roomates, though there are times when I think my mum knows more than she lets on. I know the thing I am most afraid of is the way they will treat him once I tell them. They're very kind and accepting of him now, but I am afraid that they will make a complete 180 once they know we're seeing each other. I also have little moments of fear that they will push me away...it's unlikely, but the fear still grips me at moments. I just want them to know before Thanksgiving. I want to be able to go with my boyfriend to their house, without pretending there is nothing between us.
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reader, vina_101  +, writes (16 November 2006):
 First of all I do not agree with the answer given below. Approach your parents one day when they are not busy and when they are in a fairly good mood. Find the right time and ask them to sit down with you because you have something to tell them. Do not fear the consequences of telling them. You must face up to the consequences.
If you really love this man then you should be prepared to take that risk with your parents.
It's better to tell them now than them finding out some other way. That will make the situation worse.
They might accept him, they might not. But as parents they should want to see you happy and if this man makes you happy then in time they will see that.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2006): Well, what did you expect? What if he were 20 years older than he is? Would even you not be shocked and disappointed? My advice? Dump Methuselah before you come to experience just why your folks are upset.
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