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writes:My wife and I are 5 years apart in age and have been married for 8 years, we tried to start a family but it did not work ever since she seems angry the whole time, we argue about the little thing and fight constantly (for a year now).without consulting me on my feelings she disided that we should split up as we could not have children which ripped my feeling of security right out from under meDue to our fighting, alot of our trust that we had was distroyed by accusing each other of emotional affires. She is unhappy at work as her boss treats her badly, she is sufffering from stressed induced illnesses and she seams distant and avoids talking about her feelings or gets angry at me for asking.I have since bumped into an ex girlfriend and have been constantly considdering sleeping (even dream about it) with her after a week of flirting, i never considdered myself to be a cheating type and do not wont to distroy what i have left with my wife but i am craving excitement, love and attention which i am reciving form this other woman.I am at my wits end as i still love my wife dearly but cant seem to make things better only Worse
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): you admit there are problems in your marriage, by yo starting an affair, your problems will not end, it will escalate. if you are feeling all this, how sure are you that your wife isn't as well. she too may be craving the excitment and attention. but the real problem here is perhaps the inability to conceive. this is putting undue pressure on you both. maybe a few days away, just the two of you, to talk and bond as man and wife?? and tell her that she is still beautiful, you still love her and want to be with her. maybe just reinforce this.
as for the affair, this will definately kill any chance with your wife. and you know it. so plse think carefully before indulging. you will regret it and yes, you will get caught.
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reader, athenas  +, writes (22 June 2009):
Hey there!!! Cant have kids why not adoption I mean that may be a reason that shes feeling down. If its not that why not go to counsaling try everything thats in your hands to save your marriage if she refuses tell her how you feeling what your needs are (Im not just talking about sex) But let her know that your not feeling love from her and that you are at a point where you want to leave. If she doesnt understand get out of that house because things are going to get worst youll get in a point where you wont even want to look at her (I lived it) but first try everything that way if you do walk out youll know that you did everything you could. GOOD LUCK!!!!
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