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writes: Im seventeen years old and i cant wait to have a child. i know im not ready for one now and im not intending on having one now. but is it normal to think about having a baby all the time? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006): Hey i'm seventeen with a baby due in December.... ive thought about this my whole life, go ahead and have a child if u want just make sure u have a father or someone u will stand by u and you have some money saved away for it to grow up but is along as u want it its your life so live it the way u want!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2006): I thought about it when I was younger. It's the excitement of being a mother, isn't it? Looking after a child, being totally responsible. I know. Yes, it's normal to think about it. Just don't get obsessed. It'll be even more exciting when you do get one then, won't it?!
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reader, Maloletka +, writes (22 February 2006):
 It's normal WHEN you are married; have a good job to support your future child; have a good education (high school, and at least college...)... But if you want to be a single parent with no money, no place to live, no future... it's not a good idea to have a baby... Baby needs two parents, someone need to take care of baby, etc...
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (21 February 2006):
 Some young ladies do think about becomming a mum at a young age but in my expeience of working with young mums most of they regrett that they had a baby when they were so young and not mature enough to manage the responsibilities of another life when they have not done much with there own life, this is of course not always true as there are some young mums who really enjoy motherhood and dont resent it at all, but these are usually the women with a big support network, family and friends who help, encourage and support and were money is not such an issue.
Some of the girls that I have talked to who had babies younger and the same age as you told me that they had problems with there families and wanted someone to love, they felt emotionally needy and felt a baby would fill the emothinal void, some came from families that mother and sisters had all had babies young.
Some of the women got pregnant whilst in care or in a disfunctional family, but nearly all of them said they would have in hind sight waited until they had a stable relationship with a flat and had experienced a job and had some financial security.
I am glad you are not rushing into having a baby and can only say that you should wait until you have a good stable relationship and have experienced a bit of what life has to offer a young girl, also think about why you want a baby so much and how you would support it and what life would you have to offer it if you did bring a baby into the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2006): As long as you're not running out the door to get pregnant THIS SECOND there's nothing wrong with introspection. After puberty, having a child suddenly goes from the realm of the abstract to the incredibly real. I must say though, your idle thoughts about wanting a baby will be stamped out pretty quickly if you spend any length of time around a few. The rewards are great, but the grief is also plentiful.
Think about it.
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