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writes:My hubby and i have been together for 15 years and now he has turned to porn and looking at gay site if he is doing this does it mean he is gay or is their mor to it cause i dont understand why he would do this.we have children and he looks at pictures of young men and i just dont know why.is ther someone out there who could answer my question
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reader, need assistance +, writes (1 October 2010):
need assistance is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you i Fill stop snooping and go directly to the source in a very loving way and just talk thing through.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): They're pretty much the same thing really, pictures of guys topless could be explained away as an aesthetic fascination with the male form. I have such a fascination from working out, I don't collect pictures of topless guys or anything but I do browse around to compare my physique to other guys as I'm pretty much sculpting my body at the moment and I'm looking for inspiration and ideas as to how I can perfect it.
If he regularly visits these sites of homosexual sex acts and collects pictures of guys topless then it's possible even likely he has a sexual attraction to men. To what degree you will have to find out by asking him and talking to him.
The fact that he's married with a wife and most likely dated women his entire adult life would suggest to me bisexuality but there's also the slight chance that he could be homosexual but that doesn't seem too likely or you would have known something was up a long time ago.
There are many bisexual people that have never experimented basically just chosen one type of sexuality and stuck to it. I know gay men that are sexually attracted to women but have never acted on it, but the other side is much more frequent for obvious reasons.
Again it's best if you have an open non judgmental discussion with him about this. You know we all have fantasies that we would not and can never act upon. This could just be fantasy to him something he might have always had and hasn't effected your marriage at all until you saw this.
Try and keep an open mind and listen to him, don't ask questions based on preconceptions if you know what I mean. Ask him what those pictures are about, why he views them, is he sexually attracted to men. Not are you gay, are you cheating on me with a guy, are we getting a divorce.
You get the idea. But it's time to stop snooping around and filling your head with ideas and start talking.
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reader, need assistance +, writes (30 September 2010):
need assistance is verified as being by the original poster of the questionif the Porn site are just gay sites and the site he visits are just of guys masterbating and guys going down on other guys is that gay or is it something ealse.he also collect pictures of young men with their shirts off what would be the pleasure in that.
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reader, need assistance +, writes (30 September 2010):
need assistance is verified as being by the original poster of the questionif the Porn site are just gay sites and the site he visits are just of guys masterbating and guys going down on other guys is that gay or is it something ealse.he also collect pictures of young men with their shirts off what would be the pleasure in that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): I don't understand your question please elaborate.
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reader, need assistance +, writes (29 September 2010):
need assistance is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks is that even if is of a guy wanking off is it the same or young muscular men standing with no shirts on????? whats that? im just concerned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): It depends on the frequency of his visits to those sites.
I've looked at gay porn quite a few times out of curiosity and while I'm neither homosexual nor bisexual I do find gay porn interesting to watch. The sexual dynamic is very different between two men than it is between two women or a man and a woman. It doesn't turn me on but I don't find it disgusting either.
If he's regularly started viewing gay porn then it's likely he could have a sexual attraction to men as well as women which would make him bisexual. Then again it could just be curiosity.
The best way to sort this out is to talk to him about it.
FYI: Young gay men are called 'twinks' and it's the gay porn equivalent of the 'teens' genre of heterosexual porn, you have nothing to worry about as far as your kids go, he's not looking at child porn. The same as a man that may have teenage kids and watches teen porn etc.
Keep an open mind when you talk to him, don't jump to conclusions just listen to what he has to say about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): Well, I'm a girl and sometimes I look at porn just so I can compare my packaging to other girls to see how I measure up... but I don't look at lesbian porn to do that...
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