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41-50,
*cigl
writes:I found out my husband of 3 years had an affair with his colleague. They even had sex. He promised to change but i do not how to forget and forgive him. I wanted to leave him but i have no heart to see my only daughter grow up in a broken family. She is only 1 year plus. Should i stay and give him another chance? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): Maybe I could understand you giving him another chance if you been married for many years BUT only three years and he's cheating already, for 6 months! You should be thankful he did it now then you finding out once you have more children and it's harder to leave. That sort of cheater dosen't change
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reader, Ask JenniHearts  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 my father did the same thing to my mother but she stayed and he did it again. they finally got a divorce and he married one of the people he cheated on her with. look the moral of the story is that leperds never change their spots. i'm sorry i know how it is to grow up in a broken home but it's not all that bad. i know you love your daughter but you need to be happy too.
hope this helps
jenni hearts
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (14 January 2009):
 As I have stated so many other times on this blog, the nature of men rarely if ever change. Some may clean-up their act temporarily, but a cheater will eventually succumb to another temptation.
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reader, NurseBetty85 +, writes (14 January 2009):
 Hello,
I'm sorry for what happend.
I've been there before and its not a good feeling.
To be honest I never been married or had any children, But I was a child growing up without my dad at home.
He Cheating on my mother not with one woman but with two.
It was going on for six years after I was born.
My father was caught red handed, and My mom was so hurt.
She felt the same way you feel, raising me without a dad.
So, she kept him around for a couple of years. It just got worse, women calling the house and even showing up to our home.
So enough was enough. She let him go, and that was the best thing she ever did. Of couse I was hurt to loose my dad, but I knew that she was a happier person.
People say they will never do it again, but there's aways that chance that it can happend again. You don't wont to spend your whole marriage being hurt. Your daughter is very young, she can recover from this. I was seven, it was harder
I do wish you the best. I do understand that it's not that easy to just pick up and walk away when you have a child. If you decied to leave, he can continue to have a relationship with your daughter. I'm grown up now and I see my father from time to time.
Wish you the Best.
NurseBetty85
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reader, wcigl +, writes (14 January 2009):
wcigl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advice. But i think you has mistaken on i wrote. What i meant was i married him for 3 years.. and his affair was only 6 months.
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