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writes:myhusband is angry with one of our adult children for what he feels is lack or repect , when in fact it is mostly just his strong personality and our daughter being of same personality,and would rather not spend any more time with her unless its major holiday when all family is together, how can i help them through this Reply to this Question
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (17 September 2009):
All you can do is try to have a rational, non-judgmental conversation with him... or multiple conversations. Explaine to him how this makes you feel. Don't defend your daughter (don't take sides)...
Assuming that she's an adult, she has a voice in this, and needs to be shown some respect as well, but so does he.
It sounds as if he's choosing to make more of this than it is, maybe you should point out that he should be proud that at least one of his daughters has developed a personality like his (likely as a result of admiration) and that she'll do well in life as a result. (my assumption).
GOod luck! Keep the message simple, try the "When you (do what?), I feel (like this...)"
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