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*weetheart1nonly
writes:If it were you, how would treat an ex that yea was good and bad to you, not necessarily the best, you made your own mistakes but was very cold to you which eventually led to breaking up with you after trying so hard to mend things. You finally decide to move on and the ex is back from no where, calling you and all, checking up on you. What led to the break up was me saying some words I didn't mean to him when I was mad and due to his own actions. Now the tables have turned.Would you be mean towards the ex, cordial and friendly or which do you think is the best way to behave to the ex knowing you have already made up your mind not to get back again?
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (30 October 2009):
 Detached - not emotionally invested. The way you would be toward a stranger or an acquiantance. You're polite to them, you don't want to hurt them, but you wouldn't miss them if you never saw them again.
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reader, pinktopaz + ♥, writes (30 October 2009):
Don't be mean, but don't be too nice. Yes, I would say cordial is the appropriate term. Especially if they're trying to get back with you and you are not interested, you don't want to be too nice to lead them on and lead them to believe that there's a chance--but being mean would just show that you're bitter and not over the past.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly + ♥, writes (30 October 2009):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat do u mean by detached?
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 i think civil and detatched is the best way forward. make it clear that you're not interested in the relationship or a friendship any more. that way you keep your dignity and he knows its over
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reader, sweetheart1nonly + ♥, writes (30 October 2009):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the info.
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reader, quiet-echo + ♥, writes (30 October 2009):
I would always be cordial and in this case I recommend you treat him as an old acquaintance.
Assume any overtures of friendship are just that, friendly with nothing more attached. If he is looking to re-kindle a relationship you can gently decline.
Treating him badly would be very crass.
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