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*razydee19
writes:I have a huge crush on one of my co-workers.. My first question is I wanna know if he likes me at all.. He has told me that he broke up with his ex over a year and a half ago that he is single and lives alone.. He is 38 and I'm 24 I know its a decent age difference but it doesn't matter to me. I'm very oblivious when it comes to things like that.. I want to let him know that iam interested in him and find out in the same token if he is interested in me.. What can I ask him if I want to know the answer to this? Please someone help me with this lol :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2010): Oooh, be careful... you may be playing with fire here. If you go out with him, it's all fine and roses - until ultimately something happens to the relationship right? Do you think it'll last for as long as you're there? B/c if you break up, then it's going to make for a SUPER AWKWARD situation where one or both of you won't want to work next to the other, or want to be transferred or also lead to other harassment problems.
If you still want to pursue it, I would say do it S L O W L Y and only hang out as friends for a long while, so if you break up, it won't be so bad.
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reader, krazydee19 +, writes (15 April 2010):
krazydee19 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionis it true that older guys would most likely jump at the chance to date a younger girl? do i have a better chance just because of the age difference? hehe
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): I agree with Meeshell that an older man will generally be more straightforward and sure of himself. But maybe it's been a long time since he dated, and probably he's never dated a girl 14 years younger than him (but would probably jump at the chance), so he may need all the help you can give him. I wouldn't "ask him" anything, just smile, flirt, use his name.The downside of being a girl is you can flirt all you want and if the man doesn't make a move, you are left wondering: Does he not get it that I like him? Does he not like me? Does he just not have any balls?The downside of being a man is once you grow a pair, you can just make a move on any girl that shows interest (or doesn't), but you'll get a lot of rejections, and be left wondering: Did I misinterpret? Did I do something wrong?
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reader, Meeshell +, writes (13 April 2010):
The difficult part is that he's a co-worker. You have to ask yourself will is affect your job if you pursue this? Because as much as you may be into him, you still need to pay your bills. Ok, with that said, my experience with older men is that they don't play the games that the guys our age do -- I'm 24 too. My co-worker met her boyfriend (in his late 30s she just turned 30) and said that he was very straightforward. When they were about to part ways at the party, he asked for her number, then called her the next day. The age difference doesn't matter, but form what I know, is if he's interested, you'll for sure know. Throw a few flirty vibes out there and see how he reacts.
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