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writes:Me n my husband been together for 2 years and were living with his parnets till we finsh working on our house, but here latly all we do is fight about anything little, we constly think eachother are mad and that were giving eachother an attuide. And we can't talk to eachother nicely so we start fighting how can we talk and tell our feelings with out being so mean to eachother and understand eachother more?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Mrs. Mom +, writes (12 March 2009):
 I wonder if it would work to sit down with your husband and set some ground rules. Ask what things you've said to him that bothered him, so you know what kinds of things set him off. Both of you agree what forms of expression are acceptable and then stick to it.
Another suggestion would be to err on the side of kindness. Make your best effort to be courteous and kind for about a week. AFter that time, I bet it will have become more automatic. (I got this idea from a Berenstain Bears book I used to read to my daughter!!!)
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