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writes:Dear cupid. I have a question about my husbands problem. We have an ok sex life but he only last a couple seconds its no longer then 5 min. We tryed all the sprays to last longer and even got him off befor sex but he still dont last long can anyone please tell me what else we can do because i dont even want to give it to him because i feel its a waste of time.
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reader, paul54644  +, writes (21 December 2007):
 HiI would recommend similar to the anon poster.The key is the stop start approach. He can practise when masturbating to the point when he feels close, then stopping, allowing his erection to soften a bit by waiting a while, then resuming stimulation until he feels close again, stopping and so on.Then, when he has mastered some control, he can apply the same approach when you both are enjoying intercourse. Specifically, thrusting for a while and then when the pre-orgasm feeling start, stopping. Either he can leave his penis inside your vagina at that time without thrusting or he could take his penis out of you for a while before penetrating again if being inside your vagina is just too exciting for him in itself.Given time, I think he will learn his body well. I certainly have using this approach such that i am very aware of the early signs that an orgasm is close so I stop or slow down. I have learnt to a point that I know my body well enough that I make an active choice to no stop and have an orgasm inside my partner, when the time is right, typically after she has achieved her orgasm.I also find the technique of thrusting make a difference. Let me explain. If he is fully inside you and his thrust doesn't actually involve almost completely withdrawing the penis before the inward thrust, then the level of stimulation is lower. When i decide to orgasm, I move my hips in such a way that the whole penis is stimulated, by almost withdrawing completely. This heightens my pleasure and an ejaculation into my partner's vagina will follow soon after.Good luck and let us know how you get on.P
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (12 December 2007):
Be patient dear woman.Rome wasn't built in a day.I suggest he sees a doctor as there may be a complication you are not aware of.Try having non-penetrative sex for a while because if i were him and you stop being sexual,i'd think you are getting it from elsewhere.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2007): Well heres a technique and dont ask how i may know. What your husband can do is that when he feels he is ready to eject, he can still be in you but he should stop and begin or continue to kiss you until the feeling is over and he can start up again. The more he gets use to holding the feeling in, it can last longer and when he does eject in the end, it'll be a lot more pleasing due to the fact he held it in all that time. Intercourse can last up to an hour or more if he uses this technique. Talk to him and give it a try. Its a pretty good way without using anything artificial. Good luck!
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