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writes:The women I most often have chemistry with are usually in the 20-24 age range. Why? It might be that I'm basically young at heart. It might be that my values and culture are closer to Generation Y than Generation X. But at the end of the day, it doesn't matter - chemistry happens when it happens, with whom it happens.Fortunately, this seems to be the age group I attract, at least initially. This might be partly because I look about 25. But in reality, I'm in my early 30's. Obviously, the other party to the relationship will find out my actual age sooner or later. (And I tell the truth when asked.) Of course, some women will be OK with an 8-12 year age difference, and others not so much.My goal is to approach women in this age range who are OK with such an age difference, without annoying the ones who aren't interested. How can this be done?And if I accidentally approach someone who's not OK with the age difference, is she going to be completely disgusted when she finds out my actual age? Or is it more likely that she'll just lose interest? If the latter, is there anything to lose by approaching women who seem interested?In case regional differences are a factor, I'm in a socially liberal major city on the East Coast of the United States. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone who responded. It helps to hear what you have to say. Feeling that it might not be OK to approach some of the people I'm interested in was blocking me from going ahead and approaching them.
anon_e_mouse - Yes, I don't exclusively go for any one age range either. I agree that it's whether they have a similar attitude towards life that's important.
mandy7 - That's cool that you go out clubbing with your kids!
duskyrowe - Age isn't an issue to me per se. It's just that it is to many other people...
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (11 February 2008):
 I don't think there's any way to tell just by looking at a girl whether they prefer older men or not, or whether they feel comfortable with it.
I'm 29 and I tend to go for the 22-25 age range since I'm still very much young at heart. However, this doesn't mean I'm counting out 26-29 year-olds. If I meet the right person with a similar attitude to life than me then age doesn't really matter.
The only way to find out whether they're interested or not is to actually approach them, chat them up and see how they react when you ask them how old they are and they ask you. If they're not comfortable with it I don't think they'd be disgusted by the age difference, more likely just won't be interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): Hi Hunny,
If your young at heart and look young then it should all come together naturally, When you meet someone you will no if the chemistry is there, Im very young at heart and have been told on many occation I look nowere near my age, And over the years have found I feel more comfortable with younger people, This may have alot to do with my 2 older boys who are like best friends to me and we go out on a regular basis clubbing, It may have to do with the fact that my previous relationships were not nice and im unsure of men coming into my life in a relationship way that are of a certain age. What ever the reasons behind it Ive been with my fiance for 2yrs soon and he is 24 this year Im 46 this year we are very happy and best mates. So when you feel happy and content in life with your chosen partner that is all that matters, Love can happen age is a number my fiance new how old I was before we dated so that wasnt an issue, But just be honest and you cant go wrong if someone likes and cares for you age wont come into it sweetheart. TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (11 February 2008):
 Don't lie about your age. Age is a number and should never be an issue. You should take people as they are and not worry about age, as I feel they will not be put off if you are honest with them in the first place. Its fine to date women who are a good few years younger/older. So breathe and don't let it bother you. Life is too short! Dusky xxx.
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