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writes:Ok, so not the easiest of questions. I am in my 20's and want to know how to give a hand job as i don't know how and have just recently started dating someone and want to try it out but i am too embarrassed to tell this guy that i don't know how to do it. Please help
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reader, Candy Apple  +, writes (24 April 2010):
Grab his hand and place it on your boobs then slowly slide your hand down to his pants. Then reach your hand into his jeans and start massaging. Once it is erect pull it out of his pants, lube up, and hold it firml but not hard. Rub up and down slowly at first. Then get faster. Don't forget is tip and balls. Massage them with the other hand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): well, if you think about it sometimes it comes naturally to some, but however its a case of if you want to or not. you should never let anyone force you into doing something you dont want to,some people might practice before they actually do it.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): I agree that each guy is different. the basics r - pressure, speed, as someone mentioned u can use a circular motion, u can use both hands or one, u can give him a handjob & BJ at same time (porn stars do this a lot) u can play w balls, u can play w the anus (though I don't like this), u can use lubricant, u can vary the angle of the stroke (up down, to the side). just try diff things & ask if he likes it. BUT frankly just touch it & he'll be happy :-)
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reader, Cowboy +, writes (28 October 2008):
I'm sure they do.
You can't be all things to all people, and for every person who thinks you're great in bed, there may well be another one who doesn't.
The thing to remember is that everyone's different, so you can't be expected to know what he likes unless you ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): am sure many women say the same about you as well.
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reader, Gio  +, writes (28 October 2008):
Hahaha Cowboy, you made me laugh out loud! :) Yes, I agree, let the boyfriend guide you and show you what he likes. It has worked for me this way. Also, you will be guided by his response if you decide to experiment on your own, without his help.
Gio
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reader, Cowboy +, writes (28 October 2008):
Hmm, now see, that's not how I like it.
I find for instance that varying the speed and pressure really spoils it for me, I need it to be very consistent.
This is not a criticism of you aunty_rach, I'm sure you're very good at it :o)
The point that I am trying to make is, I imagine that this is one of those things where every guy is different.
I was circumcised as an adult, and so I know what it's like to be both circumcised and uncircumcised. The two are very different, and require a completely different technique.
There is no formula for the perfect hand job, but that's a good thing, because it means that he'll probably be expecting you not to know how to do it, and he'll probably appreciate you taking the time to learn.
If you really want to now how he likes it, why don't you have him guide your hand until you know what to do?
I've done this several times with girls who firmly believed that they were good at it, but were in fact terrible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2008): ok, i was like that too.my boyfriend keep wanting me to give him a hand job, but i didnt want to seem dumb to tell him that i have no idea how to do it.but finally, i just told him, and he teached me. after i did it, i was like, "thats it?" it's really simple.just pretty much go up and down on the dick, and he might tell you faster or do the tip or something, just dont squeeze hard cuz then it's harder to go fast or whatever.but trust me, he will think it feels so good, even if you dont know how to do it. it's a major turn on for guys.good luck, baby!:D
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (28 October 2008):
it's easy. just start by either touching his balls and rubbing them with the palm of your hand then move your hand up the shaft of his penis slowly, then when you get to the top use your finger to circle the top of his penis then move your hand down to the base. then up, down,up down. a good idea is to change the speed and presure of your hand. Also there is a technique where as you go up and down you move your hand in a circular motion, it;s hard to explain. it's basically so your hand is not just in one posistion while you are rubbing his shaft. you will learn what he likes and does not like within time. then you can make up your own ways of giving him a hand job. it's easy!
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reader, Crafter  +, writes (28 October 2008):
 Couldn't you just google it?
http://sexuality.about.com/od/tipstechniques/ht/give_a_handjob.htm
A little tip: the "g" spot is right at the base of the head.
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