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How to deal with my boyfriend taking drugs?

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Question - (11 May 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 11 May 2008)
A female Australia age 26-29, anonymous writes:

my boyfriend has done pot on the odd occasion when it was at a party or something he went to. and i was fine with it because it was just a social thing. Im anti drug, have never taken illegal drugs in my life and i hardly drink.

He now goes out once a week to his mates place and gets high and i dont know why but it frustrates me. I feel like its damaging him and that its the same a smoking. And he is completely against tobacco smoking.

i dont know how to deal with it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008):

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why do you use pot? anyone...what do you get outta it? is it the same concept as drinkin alcohol except its illegal?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008):

i'm completely against tobacco smoking but use pot every now and then.

but if it bothers you that he does it... i guess your best option is sit down and talk to him! you don't have to go and start an argument, just tell him that it makes you feel uncomfortable and why.

hope all goes well!

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A female reader, Country Woman United Kingdom +, writes (11 May 2008):

Country Woman agony auntYou have to tell him that it bothers you and if he doesn't like smoking then why is he doing this?

Is it still pot that he is using right now or has he moved on to something else that he doesn't smoke?

You can't just let this continue without telling him how you feel as you would not be much of a girlfriend if you weren't concerned about him. OK so you say it is a social thing but if he was out with lots of friends doing it then it would be a social thing but if he is going to a friends house every week then it is more like he needs his weekly fix.

Try and get him to do something else for a week so he doesn't go as if he can't then you know full well that he is hooked and it could be more often than once a week if this carries on.

Does his family know what he is doing and is it affecting him in any other way, i.e. how he is with you or other people?

Talk first and then decide where to go from here, there must be helplines you can contact in Australia as it is often the partners of people who suffer more than the people using so get some advice as well and if you feel that this is affecting his personality then you need to do something.

The only other thing is shock treatment i.e. tell him that unless he gives us then you are not prepared to sit at the sidelines and watch him destroy himself as you care too much about him to watch it happen so you must walk away now.

At the end of the day only you know how he is so do get some advice before you chat to him as a drugsline may have better clearer advice than me for what to watch out for in his behaviour patterns OK.

Take care and keep us posted eh!


Country Woman

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